Comments on: Being 30 is a Biatch!

By: zimbabwean

zimbabwean — Thu, 07 Jan 2010 12:59:24 +0000

i suggest you move to zim. zim men (unlike their fellow south africans) believe in marriage. u wl probably get one to marry u the moment u land so start bookin flights

By: Just Scandalous

Just Scandalous — Wed, 30 Dec 2009 20:02:02 +0000

Cnglema…i am dreading being 31 next year

By: Cnglema

Cnglema — Wed, 30 Dec 2009 12:02:25 +0000

Interesting read, JS trying fitting in a child in that 30ish loveless situation. It gets even harder to date or find love when you have a fatherless child scenario.

You delay dating as you dont want to introduce different kinds of men in your child’s life as you can never know who will make the cut on your prospective Mr Right candidate list. You also dont want to expose your precious gem (child) to unhealthy and risky behaviours that will come with these courtships. You find that person and you still worry if he will accept your child and the drama that comes with what he is getting himself into. Will the child accept uDanci wakhe omtsha? Are you confusing the child (especially a child who does not know his/her natural dad) by letting get attached to this stranger?

Women in these kinda situations tend to lower their superficial ideal man standards and to be more tolerant than childless counterparts. You would often hear words like “kodwa uyamthanda umtanam” (but he loves my child) to justify the situation.

By: Gavin

Gavin — Sat, 26 Dec 2009 20:47:45 +0000

So true, only I’m a 30 year old white male… other than that, we are walking the exact same track. @Nonny: It only dawned on me at 29 that I want the wife, kids and house (not specifically in that order though ). You’ll see, it gets old fast… and so are we.

By: Nonny

Nonny — Wed, 09 Dec 2009 09:55:29 +0000

Thanks for ur input Kabelo and I hear u, but as they say different strokes for different fokes, mina I am the type that is not interested in marriage or kids. So if Im 24 and Im at that mindset I find it hard to believe that 4 years down the line I would’ve changed. And besides the world would be a boring place if we all lead the same life of work-marry-breed-retire and die.

By: mantwa

mantwa — Tue, 08 Dec 2009 13:38:20 +0000

LOL Nonny.

Kabelo & LadyD, telling it like it is. Single ladies, I hope y’all are listening.

By: Double Standards

Double Standards — Tue, 08 Dec 2009 13:10:35 +0000

tjo Kabelo, please come and speak to my friends, they need that talk…I know’ve taken the advice, even though at 30, I’m a bit late

By: Mancu

Mancu — Tue, 08 Dec 2009 12:43:28 +0000

Tjo! waybeka indaba Kabelo straight and two beers…

By: Kabelo

Kabelo — Tue, 08 Dec 2009 12:01:50 +0000

Nonny and Renegade, 24 isn’t that young for a woman. That’s probably what Justcurious used to think when she was your age. Stop misleading each other. There’s nothing sexy about that. As to Koki’s “advise” about making sure that he’s man enough and not intimidated by your success. What does that even mean? You guys have listened to too much feminist talk about this whole 50 50 thing. Y’all keep attacking men at every turn, and yet you cry when nobody wants to marry you. You try so hard to adopt a eurocentric aproach to life that the difference between reality and soapies seems to escape you as a result. A word of advise, there are so many single men out there that are also looking for someone to be serious about, but you guys make it very difficult for us to be serious about you with these dramatic statements. “Intimidated by my success”, Fabulous and successful. There’s nothing atractive about a woman with an ego bigger than mine.

By: Renegade

Renegade — Tue, 08 Dec 2009 10:19:15 +0000

kwakwakwa at the stunning reserve Nonny!

Mina at 24 I feel that while I don’t want to be married or have a baby, I should be in a relationship that has a potential to bear these things. Should I fall pregnant, it shouldn’t be a big deal. But as fate would have it…it’s not the case.