I Just Don’t Get It…
February 8, 2010 by Brown Shuga
Ladies, I really don’t understand…
This questions has been asked a million times before but I still don’t get it.
When a man cheats on a woman neh, whether it’s his wife or girlfriend, as they usually do, why is it that we (women) ALWAYS go hating on the “other” woman and make the man out to be a “victim” in all of that? Why is it that we see the woman as the evil biatch and forget that it actually starts with the man?
This old man right here, (check where his hand is at …smh) ain’t no angel. In my mind, forget Khanyi Mbau, this Theunis Crous guy is actually to blame for all this media circus. He is the one who signed a marriage certificate with Primrose, the same one who stood in front of a priest and said “till death do us part”, or is Khanyi the death that he spoke about?
If anyone should be sued for pain and suffering, it’s him.
Hayi, I’ve seen Theunis’ type. Rich, old white man who just can’t get enough of Young, Black, Sexy girls. Even after Khanyi’s era is over, there will still be more. Men like him never get satisfied, no matter how much their wives fight to try and keep them.
Why must a woman fight to keep a man anyway??
(Theunis pictured with Khanyi at the MET a week ago)
I bet even when he’s with Khanyi he still gives other young things the eye… Kinda reminds me of a certain “old white man” who’s married to another celebrity. Shem, the guy needs to learn to control his “wandering” eye and more so because he looks at other woman even when his beautiful wife is right next to him. *sigh*
Tjo, lemme keep quiet before I get sued for “real”.
….on another note… I do agree with Khanyi on this one (check out her Twitter surname)
NEXT….
*Congratulations to Chelsea on beating Arsenal 2 – 0 last night 
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I’ve been following the John Terry issue with much interest and I’m just amused that there are people who are shocked & calling it a scandal. Scandal? Puhleez.
Seriously now, is there a girl in this world, worst of all in the UK, who dates/marries a soccer player and still believe that the man will NEVER cheat on her? Honestly? Unfortunately when they are given that “on the pitch” talent, they are also given their “playa” talent, the poor boys can’t even help it. How many times have we read about what these boys get up to? The only reason John Terry’s team mates are so supportive is because they also know they got scandals & sex tapes of their own. There’s no judging in that nation. Think of the following sex scandals… Wayne Rooney, David Beckham, Ashley Cole, Dwight Yorke, Jermain Defoe, Ronaldo, the list is endless. The players, their managers/coaches, it’s in their blood (Ask Mamadou Gaye).
I don’t even think this Wayne Bridge dude is that bothered about the fact that John cheated on Toni with his ex Vanessa Perroncel because naye uWayne fo sho unezakhe izinto. & I don’t see why he (Wayne) would be mad anyway coz he and Vanessa had already split when she started her fling with John.
So, you still wanna date a baller? I have a bit of advice for you… now kids close your ears…
Ladies, if you do decide to spend your life with one of these hot, sexy, do-u-all-night, sweet talking things, do yourself a favour:
- Condomise
- Have 1 or 2 options on the side.
Otherwise uzohlala ukhala njalo. #ImJustSaying.
So, let me attempt playing the devil’s advocate and ask…
Kahle kahle ….
- Why do we blame the Khanyis and Vanessas of this world for cheating husbands?
- If these WAGS, rich men’s wives (think Tiger’s wife, Primrose, Victoria Beckham & Toni Terry) are so hurt and humiliated, how come they don’t forget about the lavish lifestyles and just leave these “cheaters”?
I’m Just Curious.
Quote Of The Day: 
GA on Mon, 8th Feb 2010 1:08 am
Lovely read as usual sucre…I wasnt very curious but now i am.
Whwn i head of Ashley Cole’s indecressions…i could not and still understand why any man..baller or hustler would cheat on a gorgous woman like Cheryl Cole, i mean thta lady umuhle man!…?…still curious here…
I think the first question is almost answered ke Redi’s article (sowetan) on the interviw she had with Khanyi..ironically i just read it:
http://www.sowetan.co.za/Columnists/FrankTalk/Article.aspx?id=1110997
Otherwise i dont even have a penny worth to contribute, im curious too…painfully so coz this is sad.
And i just have to say…”Rich, old white man..”..eeew!…like aneva…!
Lela on Mon, 8th Feb 2010 1:33 am
I dnt knw wht 2 say bt eish hayi these girls must just get a real job nje cz reading abt them is js 2 draining.
Makgotso on Mon, 8th Feb 2010 7:32 am
Im also curious BS yazi
Cleve on Mon, 8th Feb 2010 7:54 am
Woman love money and the status of being married. So when the husby cheats they forgive them because they know that the lavish lifestyle will dissapear. Lok at Primrose, the guy is flauting Khanyi around and yean she still hasn’t filed for divorce??? what the hell is she waiting for? Is she waiting for Khanyi to dump her man first so the man can come crawling back.
Mantombazana money is the route to EVIL, stop worshiping it and selling your souls for it tu…….
mathata on Mon, 8th Feb 2010 8:00 am
haaaaaaaaaa primrose leeeena!does she have life without this men?
she know how to run business whats her problem ?why cant she throw this punk under the bus,she will make more money mos.
I said before….men like bitches,act like Maria maJesus you will get some s**.
i dont say ppl must biatch around,but he must know you dont bath for him.
if i have sell Tamaties to be indepedent i will do so.
or theunis his good in bed bathong?i dont think so!by luck you will find white dude lekker.
Sasha Fierce on Mon, 8th Feb 2010 8:07 am
As Anele said on twitter….women make it seem like the man was just a parcel…sitting there and STOLEN!!!!
NiccY on Mon, 8th Feb 2010 8:18 am
So true – blame should be on the men as well…nxx But i also think that, so long as there’s aboKhanyi who allow these men to cheat with them. Lamadoda ngeke ayeke ubufebe. Women allow these men to treat us like trash coz we fornicate with them. Only if all the ladies could say NO to married/engaged/taken men. I’m sure we wouldn’t be reading about the Khanyis of this world every sunday on Sunday World.
SZ on Mon, 8th Feb 2010 9:10 am
Men will never stop cheating,we women cheat too.I seriously dnt think it should even be national news if a husband cheats,it happens all the time.A woman may leave her husband cos he was caught cheating and move on to the next guy but he will cheat too.Men just need to master the art of keeping their affairs tightly under wraps.
Phumla on Mon, 8th Feb 2010 9:17 am
yes men are to blame but I think men only cheat bcoz there’s always a women out there willing to cheat with them. We just don’t respect each other, honestly, it was eve that lead Adam to he forbidden tree.
Dj Y on Mon, 8th Feb 2010 9:35 am
I agree BS, men are to blame when their wandering eyes leave the eyes socket, i just do nt get why women do nt get this simple math. Leave other woman out of it, simple.
Kiki on Mon, 8th Feb 2010 9:38 am
I am tired of this Khanyi,Primrose and Crous story…
Lu on Mon, 8th Feb 2010 9:52 am
Kahle kahle Khanyi DOES look like a horse…
Lexie on Mon, 8th Feb 2010 9:56 am
Have 1 0r 2 options on the side?!? LMAO! Lovely….
Philzah on Mon, 8th Feb 2010 10:02 am
Do you think Lamar will cheat on Khloe’? He betta not…
I know Reggie cheats(on Kim) and will still do even when they are married
mathata on Mon, 8th Feb 2010 10:06 am
if yr hubby thinks you are just a fool ..let it,he will get someone to put him on ironing bord n iron him.
To be honest nobody owns anybody,n you wont find a men hanging on a tree aker,that means ther’s always somebodys person.
it will be a hell to ask a person are you angaged?everytime you meet someone you ask quatians?…haaa…ring ..yes,what the hell do you think his f**?or wa skomara???
Die_Groot_Krokodil on Mon, 8th Feb 2010 10:13 am
Okay Ladies u need not blame this on the men, females are the root_cause of all this things “LE RATA TSHELETE KUDU MAAN” once u see a men’s wallet u will flying around him like flies on sh!t, the sooner u realise that u are not the only one sucking the money out of me the better!!!
iconic on Mon, 8th Feb 2010 10:33 am
Some people have stong liver,mkhaba/airbag ya Crous?tjo!
mathata on Mon, 8th Feb 2010 10:37 am
i wont buyit!if his got money n his cotton wool under….im sorry sir.
F** me ,the next day you make sure gore I lost some LBS ,some women they dont mind a person whispering on their ears for d whole f* night aslong his got $,aOWa!
Nna ke Maditaba hle! on Mon, 8th Feb 2010 10:43 am
…eerrr…at the end of the day truth is “Mazinyo a mabi Mbau” is partly to blame. Yena le Primrose were once friends right?
Isnt there an unwritten rule somewhere hore you DO NOT go after your friends men(or woman),especialy if they are married?
As for Thenuis, ke sifebe!
Come on guys,fact is Mbau is a man Easter and Stealer!But dont get it twisted,she only digs(steals) for Platinum!
Theunis yena o na le mid-life crisis but just like Mandla, he’ll have more debts than pennies when Mbau is done with him.
**Does this mean Mbau le Thenuis were playing footsie-footsie under the dinner table when they all (Mandla,Mbau,Primrose & Thenuis) hung out together?
Nogs on Mon, 8th Feb 2010 11:32 am
Double standards are applied..why is Zuma being blamed…his women are to be blamed as well for not preventing/condomising.. We women like status and sense of belonging end of story!!!!
khafo on Mon, 8th Feb 2010 11:37 am
neh. i bet crous is somebody’s grandfather. this chicks like boMashwabana.
khafo on Mon, 8th Feb 2010 11:39 am
100% with you Nogs. ke la ka leo.
Silvio on Mon, 8th Feb 2010 11:50 am
LOL!
sponono on Mon, 8th Feb 2010 12:41 pm
just want to add that its not a rich WHITE old men thing…its just simply RICH OLD MEN..coz I know plenty of old black geezers who are ugly and sweaty with pretty young things so the whole forbidden “exotic black fruit” is just a minor attraction, in fact the main attraction is the idea that a beautiful petite YOUNG girl wants me and is not afraid of showing off or being a dcorative piece as long as she gets what she wants…and most old MEN of ANY colour are attracted to that….remember that song..”Ngicela ning’yuze.uDady usebenzile”…LOL..so dont black rich whites, coz these BEE types are doin the same thing without the paparazi (maybe they have enough experience in cheating and being players when they were young so they dont get caught)
Bee on Mon, 8th Feb 2010 1:35 pm
Tjo uyathetha mfazindini (BS). Yha well people, mna as Bee i thk men always wana make women feel not good enough and worthless well if you really worthless u’ll steal other woman’s man bt if you not you’ll make thgz make thgs work btwn u and yo partner. Love yo body don go and flaunt yo precious body every where.
Kabzan on Mon, 8th Feb 2010 2:08 pm
tjo, Khany looks a cheap drag queen in that picture with baba Crous. I respected Primrose, but now im thinking twice: i mean why go after a man who has made it clear that he is a stupid womaniser? sisi please dont act like u are cheap Primrose. move on, ul find another rich men oneday…theres plenty!
Lwandie on Mon, 8th Feb 2010 2:11 pm
Abafazi we are our own enemies shem. Not just in the dating department but in life nje.Women are more likely to bring down another successful woman’s hussle than men do to each other
As long as there are women out there without enough respect to accept a man who is taken, and wives and girlfriends who will misdirect their anger to the other women then these type of man will always have their cake and eat it.
Ja footballers worldwide have this universal thing man, they are like taxi drivers bayafana nje yonke indawo and women who get married to them just need to accept what they are getting into.When Cheryl Cole started dating Ashely she was under the illusion that hers was different and if he ever cheated on her she would not stay etc etc… until the Jamacian in Ashely came out.
WAGS just need to take a leaf out of Vic Beckham manual and calm down:
if-rather when he cheats:
-Calm Down,
-Redirect your energy to other interests,
-Expoit the name and wealth he has given you for your own good and gain respect in your own right,
-If the anger demons arise-just apease them with a shopping trip or holiday and console yourself that his career has a sell by date so eventually he will come home to roost.
mathata on Mon, 8th Feb 2010 2:34 pm
my hubby gives me this much……telling BFF….ppl not fools.they are counting.
bitches knows how to play a game.
if somebody snatch my hubby ,i dont blame her,first thing fix myself.
in reality of life!you cant eat dry wors n pap every f* day,that one you can ask Madiba.
Nthoentle on Mon, 8th Feb 2010 2:58 pm
Mathata oreng? Or I can’t read guys?
SZ and Kiki,u r soooo right! Eish guys we won’t win this battle babba ba jola straight. Khanyi yena she will get what’s coming to her
Khanyimubishame! on Mon, 8th Feb 2010 2:59 pm
But her body is Haattttttt!
Bee on Mon, 8th Feb 2010 3:04 pm
I believe each and every of us have our own Mr/Ms right(out there) we jst need to wait on GOD to bless us with that special person. If we take things to our hands we will ever looking. U’ll only realise it when you 39/49/59 and lonely that u wasted yo time becouse u were busy ‘USIDL’UBUTSHA BAKHO’. Well i don want that hence i’ve learned to trust the people um with.
Kiki on Mon, 8th Feb 2010 3:07 pm
lol @ khanyimubishame name…
mathata on Mon, 8th Feb 2010 3:27 pm
Marriam makeba was married how many times?what we are seeing is just a small game.
khanyi she work for that body,
@bee ,you wait for mR right wile you are renting LOL , ppl dont want to die poor.
Lu on Mon, 8th Feb 2010 3:37 pm
kwa kwa kwa @ mathata, uyiskhokho!
Enkosi on Mon, 8th Feb 2010 3:44 pm
First Bonangmubishame now Khanyimubishame what’s next? Matwinsmabishame LOL
Lela on Mon, 8th Feb 2010 3:47 pm
Bee believe me I waited 3years for Mr praying while waiting until He came along and I thanked God for answering my prayer but sana ucheata yena kuqala looMr right wam.
Nka modira on Mon, 8th Feb 2010 3:50 pm
I don’t have a beautiful body like primrose and Khanyi,but I would not be caught dead taking off my blumas for la tamkhulu u Crous rha!
Khanyimubishame! on Mon, 8th Feb 2010 3:57 pm
@Nka modira……..mina nawe sobabili i’d neva……Lmao@Blumas
sponono on Mon, 8th Feb 2010 4:00 pm
Lela..3yrs maybe you watied too long you forgot how to work it…LOL
mathata on Mon, 8th Feb 2010 4:09 pm
@lela,hai sana maybe you dont shake him,phela that muscle need to be tortured….worm in d water baby!
TboTouchmubishame on Mon, 8th Feb 2010 4:18 pm
I really dont understand what these madalas see in that girl.
Prim u got to keep your head up gal.
Lela on Mon, 8th Feb 2010 4:19 pm
Lol @ sponono n mathata,d point i was tryna make was it dont mata hw long u pray n wait 4 mr right,nigga stl go cheat on ur black ass no mata hw much u shake it,lol.
Bee on Mon, 8th Feb 2010 4:32 pm
@Lela i get u gal bt let me tell u somethg theres somethg called TEST sweetheart and if u believe in GOD and u still alive u gona get those TESTS a lot jst try to make it work. OMG i start to sound like Sis Dolly rite Lol. Bt hey i don say you should be a sumbssive woman, my point is i’ve seen people(including my parents) married for more than 40yrs and they r still going strong bcz they understand the power of the SECRET.
mathata on Mon, 8th Feb 2010 4:32 pm
he must call is bongo sakhe you will know masala curry is not working olny for Indians.
Ask a dude fabulous cake or Tyra banks.
look at Pepsi n machere….d match noo goodo,but im telling you the cake is fabulous there,
men loves cake,women diamonds.thats the fact.
Funky K aka FK on Mon, 8th Feb 2010 5:24 pm
Kwa kwa kwa…….. Buaaaaaaahhhhhh Mathata @ masala curry not only working for Indians. KSKDEDTSDB
Lela on Mon, 8th Feb 2010 6:43 pm
@Bee i get u gal. Kwa kwa kwa kwa kwa @ mathata eish i rly need dat indian curry lol.
Malibongwe on Mon, 8th Feb 2010 7:36 pm
Lol!! I actually do get your point! Women, and society at large is almost always quick to jump at the woman’s throat and forget that the equation includes a man who is capable of thinking. The only beef I have with uMaMbau is the way she flaunts the affair. OK, The old, pudgy but oh-so-filthy rich man chose you, we get it. You don’t have to shove that fact down our (and poor Primrose’s) throat. I don’t have a lot to say but, yeah, I said something…
Nna ke Maditaba hle! on Mon, 8th Feb 2010 8:48 pm
Eventualy the Togo muthi will wear off or/and she’ll find another target(richer,paler,fatter man)!!!We’ve seen bo Mbau Mazinyo aMabi come and go many times,she’s just part of a statistic.
Mntungwa on Mon, 8th Feb 2010 9:27 pm
Primrose is pretty shame, loCrous yena, hayi, no words. lol @ Khanyi, i have never seen such an ambitious person in my life, im so inspired.
Nqobile on Mon, 8th Feb 2010 9:47 pm
Ive been in Prims position and i chose 2 b lyk Victoria Beckham, i got mad @ him and left da makhwapheni alone but funnily enuff she took it upon herself 2 harass, swear @ m and threaten my life mo dan once 2 da point where ive had enuff and 2day i applied 4 a restraining orda althou dat hasnt stopped da calls. Women should really respect each ada, dont let men use us lyk dis.
Bee on Mon, 8th Feb 2010 10:21 pm
@Nqobile. Spot on gal. Respect is very important and lets love and respect our bodies. No touchy touchy by every1.
Cleve on Tue, 9th Feb 2010 8:46 am
So Nqobile what’s the way foward with your man
Peggy on Tue, 9th Feb 2010 10:22 am
Honestly I think these women who take these cheatahs back are just interested in cash. If somebody does not love you anymore you can’t buy that with money. I do n’t think it’s wise for women to attack the Mbaus because those men were not abducted, they went on their free will. Mbau did nt sign any contract with Pilmrose so it’s up to Pilmrose to sort it out with her Madala. Pilm has good health both hands, why can’t she leave? I seriouls do n’t sympathise with women like her.As for Pilm wanting to sue Mbau, it’s a classic joke.
Nqobile on Tue, 9th Feb 2010 12:59 pm
Cleve we aint 2geda no mo, ons is legally separated, i chose 2 leave with my dignity intact afta a while cos i couldnt 4get and im takin a break frm relationships till im ova him, dont wanna do da rebound thing but im happy dat we managed 2 put da anger aside and b civil towards each ada, im hoping i can still do dat with da ada gal, mayb she will eventually accept dat its not my fault he left her and came back home a month afta she told me wots up and i kicked him out, da man should b blamed, not us hatin each ada.
meisie on Tue, 9th Feb 2010 4:00 pm
he must call is bongo sakhe you will know masala curry is not working olny for Indians.
Ask a dude fabulous cake or Tyra banks.
look at Pepsi n machere….d match noo goodo,but im telling you the cake is fabulous there,
men loves cake,women diamonds.thats the fact.
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My word this mathata woman is a real character, cant make out what she is saying, but yeah im loling right now!!!!!!!
mathata on Tue, 9th Feb 2010 6:31 pm
you can be good looking…But if you are not good in bed ……(is like talking to a dead person)
now you get me.
men dont want stick in Bed!from your waist ,you must shake every muscle you have.
pretty face does’nt work.
look at Angie motshega,happy inside n out.
segs on Tue, 9th Feb 2010 7:05 pm
Is she using Khanyi Mbau-Crous on her tweets?
Why not Khanyi Mthembu-Crous? and exactly when did Crous officiate her with the name? *sigh* *smh*
Mrs Crous, the real one, must let the dog go… They always come back… Look at Mandla now.. Crous, doesn’t he see what happened to him?
AndyDontsororo on Fri, 12th Feb 2010 11:52 am
All I am saying is If your man cheats and you still cool with getting them Nducci’s and Bratsilian weaves… then dont tell the whole world deal with it behind closed doors. e.g.
Invite him for dinner, take a shower ask him to join u, leave hm there n say “I need to go prepare dinner”….take baby oil pour it on the floor all the way from the bathroom to the bedromm….get a belt and call him out…..Umshaye kanoBomi ngokuEtyibilika kwibaby oil(baby oil is for him to loose balance) and tell him “I am doing this coz i love you if you continue its gonna get worse” then ask him to book you for a full body massage phela usebenzile!
jojo on Sat, 13th Feb 2010 9:33 am
yhu hayi betuna leye baby oil is very funny.
bonangmubishame on Sat, 13th Feb 2010 10:33 am
TboTouchmubishame, khanyimubishame lol niyangqeda!!! The original is the ebst… BONANGMUBISHAME
slms on Tue, 9th Mar 2010 1:29 pm
Cheating is nature our 4fathers & fathers have been doing it, so why complain.Every one is looking for his interest,who do u think will support you or family u will die alone.White’s get married even if they are over 60yrs living at old age home.So please don’t judge cause you never know what life has for you.