10 Basic Rules 4 AboMakhwapheni

September 29, 2010 by  

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A Guest Blog by Lulama

1. Do not expect commitment - I have no intention of leaving my wife for you, don’t even suggest it. Divorce is costly and you aren’t worth the cost.

2. We are not to be seen together in public –  Dinners at your favourite restaurant are out of the question. In this town I’m known as a faithful, family man and I’d like to keep it that way.

3. Do not discuss me with your friends - We both know they are gossips, I have no intentions of becoming a trending topic on twitter.

4. Don’t ask me for money - I’m not an ATM. When we met uthe u-independant angithi. Your rent, car installment, hairdresser bills, etc are none of my business.

5. My family is off limits – Don’t quiz me about my wife and kids. All you need to know about them is that they exist and that they should never find out about your existence.

6. Should you mysteriously miss your period, contact your pharmacist or gynaecologist, I have no interest in your menstrual cycle.

7. Do not call, text or email me after 5pm weekdays and don’t contact me during the weekend, for obvious reasons.

8. Certain days of the year are reserved for my family. These include (but aren’t limited to) christmas, valentine’s day, birthdays and anniversaries.

9. Do not burden me with your emotional baggage, don’t call me to talk about your ‘feelings’ that’s what your gay friends are for.

10. Don’t contact me on any social networking site - petty gossip and self righteous quotes aren’t worth risking my marriage.

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83 Comments on "10 Basic Rules 4 AboMakhwapheni"

  1. Zida on Wed, 29th Sep 2010 1:33 am 

    People don’t care that much anymore, so number 2 is not a big deal to them.

    I would say it depends on the situation on number 4. Most girls get into it for material benefits anyway so they expect the money.

    Otherwise, these are on point. Beats me why not get a man where you won’t have such limitations. *sigh*

  2. Clever D on Wed, 29th Sep 2010 2:03 am 

    All true! Don’t tell me your child or family member needs financial assistance, I’m not related with them and in my life circle, they don’t exist!

  3. ugogal on Wed, 29th Sep 2010 4:28 am 

    No 4 is so wrong cos that’s the 1st thing women think of when getting involved with married men. Otherwise y go out with someone with baggage if u already have ur own? Cost of leaving is continuing 2 grow higher & rich men are taken!

  4. ugogal on Wed, 29th Sep 2010 4:30 am 

    Sjoe, I meant ‘cost of living’

  5. Kiki on Wed, 29th Sep 2010 7:15 am 

    No 4 is sooooo far from the truth. 99% of married men look after their mistresses financially more than they look after their wives and that’s a fact.

  6. mistress on Wed, 29th Sep 2010 7:49 am 

    I do not think most of what you wrote is true in most cases the Man is in a relationship for companionship emotional support as well …
    You wont believe what can go unnoticed under yr house if you are a wife go out of town and yr man is ready to invite the other woman to your house……
    Check what he is doing when on his laptop chatting via facebook or any other site they can use i chat with my man anytime weekend week days up to twelve midnite at times coz the wife thinks he is working ….
    Financially he takes care of me and he comes with less stress than a broke ass nigger who wants me to look after him believe me i went after the mistress route after dating guys who expected me to look after them all the time bad luck i guess

  7. hlobi on Wed, 29th Sep 2010 9:05 am 

    @ Kiki True that!

  8. Lustagp on Wed, 29th Sep 2010 9:26 am 

    Hi Lulama,

    Dear i think you need an update of those basic rules.
    Zuma marries all his mistresses, he is going to marry Khoza’s daughter very soon, Mbau gave Primrose a lesson when she was emakhwapheni.
    I am quite sure you know woman are so open lately they are willing to accept their husbands steady girlfriends.

    I am man and i think you should go back and research, makhwapheni are the first thing we think about once you wives start nagging. They are the only thing we talk about at ZAR.
    Hell no!!! i will never ever spend all my holidays with my wife, rather my kids and quick first stops to my makhwapheni.

    Sorry i had to burst you bubble dear, marriage is just a signed paper these days, if you ladies can stop harrasing us to marry you and wait for us to be ready to do that.

    All my love.

    Lungsta.

  9. Uthando on Wed, 29th Sep 2010 9:27 am 

    I don’t think this is the way it works…….. guest blogger are you for real!!!!!!!

    I can not understand the fact that u shadile and again I should tolerate your stupid rules aybo kanti ngabe unani le engeka wena ndoda.

    Amadoda ayakhokha la ngaphandle some even buy the cars for their mistresses b’cos that the only way a married man can duduza umakhwapheni

  10. gudgal on Wed, 29th Sep 2010 9:36 am 

    shocked by Lungsta’s comment, wont spend his holidays with his wife????????

  11. Lustagp on Wed, 29th Sep 2010 9:47 am 

    Re-read gudgal……not ‘all’ my holidays like mentioned by the author.

  12. kayRabs on Wed, 29th Sep 2010 9:50 am 

    Lulama you couldn’t have been more WRONG! I think this blog should be retitled “what wives wish bomakhwapheni were”. #2: mistresses are the ones seen in public with the hubby because the wife is at home taking care of his kids. the mistress is the one that goes on dates cause normally the mistress is WAY HOTTER than the wife, so duh, he’d rather go out to those public places with her, if anyone asks, “you’re my cousin”. #4 The sole reason women date married men is for the financial support. they get more money as the mistress than the poor wife gets. I know of a mistress who was bought a BMW 325 (recent ones) yet his wife drives a toyota RUNX. as for the family thing, the mistress herself isn’t interested in his ugly snot faced kids.

    It’s a normal relationship, it’s just that the man has a wife at home, therefore the mistress actually gets the best of both worlds. let’s just hope no one gets infected with HIV cause the poor wife will wonder where it came from. you wanted to get married, now deal with your mans ways

  13. Fezzy on Wed, 29th Sep 2010 9:56 am 

    Ok I dont wanna get married…No

  14. sefula on Wed, 29th Sep 2010 10:06 am 

    Now I’m tempted to find myself a married man.
    @Lungsta pls direct me to the right places.

  15. cleavage on Wed, 29th Sep 2010 10:07 am 

    Shooooooo Lungsta,the truth is sometimes hard to swallow!To think I’ve been pressurising my ex to marry me,really makes me happy that he ran away with another woman!!!

  16. Kiki on Wed, 29th Sep 2010 10:08 am 

    Lustagp & KayRabs just told it like it is…..THANK U GUYS!!! Women wake up.

  17. Phathu Makwarela on Wed, 29th Sep 2010 10:10 am 

    I have to say, there is a foundamental flaw with this article…its not written by a male who is cheating on a female, most of the things here are made up, far from the true realities of cheating men….

    infedelity goes deeper than this….

    And this is not a personal attack on anyone….but what would have been ideal, is to get a man who is in these kinds of relationship to write about how he navigates thru them…most of these things are WRONG.

  18. Zenam on Wed, 29th Sep 2010 10:12 am 

    Hello everyone my name is Zenam and i am a Makhwapeni. These rules are so wrong starting from #1, there are makhwapenis like me who will never marry the guy even if he were to divorce, am doing it for fun,into ebiwayo is soo good. Ofcourse i dont ask you for money coz u give it to me without even asking. Lungsta u spot on

  19. syamthandaskota on Wed, 29th Sep 2010 10:14 am 

    No No No! Your points are 200% WRONG! Wrong. Wrong. Wrong. You have met the WRONG people. And they gave you WRONG ideas about men who have makhwaphenis in general. WRONG! Go do some revision. GPY

  20. TL on Wed, 29th Sep 2010 10:17 am 

    Yip that’s the truth! I am talking about the comments though. Number 4 is almost always the sole reason women date married men. If he doesn’t part with cash he will find himself mistressless.

    cleavage you killed me.

  21. TL on Wed, 29th Sep 2010 10:23 am 

    Family is off limits #5 mncim-I wouldn’t know want to know about them anyway!

  22. Brown Shuga on Wed, 29th Sep 2010 10:23 am 

    Why are you all disputing LULAMA’s OWN RULES? If you want to be his Makhwapheni, those are HIS rules! Take it or leave it… Just because your married lover’s rules are different doesn’t mean his are flawed. At least all the makhwapheni’s are being releaved lol… Hello y’all!

  23. Brown Shuga on Wed, 29th Sep 2010 10:24 am 

    Futhi since you are all so “experienced” in this makhwapheni, please re-write the rules for Lulama, maybe it’s his first time heheh

  24. Lumza7 on Wed, 29th Sep 2010 10:29 am 

    Although the piece may not have been written by a man who’s cheating on his wife it was written by an umakhwapheni whose relationship was governed by these rules, so to say they are made up is inaccurate. (S)he may not be a representative of all abomakhwapheni but she does represent a majority. Not all 10 rules will apply to every relationship of this nature but some (if not most) abomakhwapheni will relate with most of them.
    The sad reality is that most of us are only exposed to a minority of abomakhwapheni and not all of them are as forthcoming when it comes to details of their relationships. They let you in on what they want you to see.

  25. Brown Shuga on Wed, 29th Sep 2010 10:30 am 

    Hey Mistress…please may i ask?
    - do you not want to get married at some point?
    - How does your married lover feel about you hanging out with single boys?

    Lol Lungsta… usile heheheh

  26. Brown Shuga on Wed, 29th Sep 2010 10:31 am 

    Lumza… spot on!

  27. Kiki on Wed, 29th Sep 2010 10:33 am 

    Hai hai BS,then the title of this article is misleading & very wrong.

    If this is about him then it should read: Basic Rules 4 LULAMA’s makhwapheni….Please change it.

  28. Lustagp on Wed, 29th Sep 2010 10:34 am 

    Hi Brown Shuga..

    Anything with rules spoils the fun, the saying goes ‘live for today’. And No I for one am not disputing anythign expect saying to Lulama he/she must be real, majority of married men live by no rules.

    @sefula— start by going to (hopefully this will not breaking rules of this site as free advertising) Neh in alex, ZAR in Sandton, Front Page in Tembisa etc
    Please dont look desperate be a lady and live your life as if you didnt excpect any man to approach you.

    And i do love my family but i was not born to live my life with restrictions just because i signed some piece of paper.

  29. syamthandaskota on Wed, 29th Sep 2010 10:43 am 

    @Kiki yea… GPY. I think each blogger must add their own rules. Well at least those who are “experienced”

  30. Silvio on Wed, 29th Sep 2010 10:50 am 

    Lol.

  31. Bruised Ego on Wed, 29th Sep 2010 11:00 am 

    WOW! I know these are your rules but they totally differ to the way things really happen!

    1. Firstly married men will go as far as paying maintenance for their mistress’s kids #TrueStory, they pay school fees and buy clothes etc!

    2. They don’t mind being seen in public, we always see married people hanging around with their mistresses!

    3. If a man does not bring in money at home, that means he’s busy feeding another woman, who happens to be his mistress!

    4. Usually mistresses receive more life then the actual wife, because the man only stuck with the wife in fear of divorce or just for the sake of his kids!

    5. When a man cheats, its usually because he doesn’t love his wife anymore, so do expect to see him boarding a plane to Miami with his mistress rather than his wife!

  32. syamthandaskota on Wed, 29th Sep 2010 11:02 am 

    Its not like they dont wanna be seen in public with you. They are just not comfortable. What if they see someone from their church? What if they see someone whos friends with their wife? And you as a makhwapheni dont give a damn. Because you receive sex and moola.

  33. Phathu Makwarela on Wed, 29th Sep 2010 11:04 am 

    KIKI…i am with u on this one, its misleading nje…some of us were makhwapheni for years…we did shopping together, holidays…”hides”

    @ Bruised ego – i couldnt have said it better

  34. TL on Wed, 29th Sep 2010 11:11 am 

    @siyamthanda a dear friend used to be a mistress to a married pastor-they went everywhere!

  35. Miss H on Wed, 29th Sep 2010 11:12 am 

    These arent omakwapheni rules, these are rules of a one night stand.

  36. Kiki on Wed, 29th Sep 2010 11:14 am 

    Kwaaaaa Miss H…BOOOOM!!!

  37. hlobi on Wed, 29th Sep 2010 11:18 am 

    Seriously why do married men prefer to spend money on the mistress instead of on their own wives whom they married in broad daylight at their own accord if I might add? In some instances I’ve seen the kids suffering big time as if they did not have a father whilst he showers the makhwapheni and her kids for that matter with gifts and all the good things in life. Hhayi no man. And when this man is sick and dying the wife must then be the one to pick up the pieces and tend to him until he dies (for better or worse) whilst the makhwapheni is free to continue living her life? Hhayi sometimes marriage is just not worth it.

  38. Brown Shuga on Wed, 29th Sep 2010 11:19 am 

    LOL like I said… what are YOUR rules, from YOUR experiences? I’m happy with Lulama’s title… LUMZA summed it up nicely…

    Bruised Ego… your number 5 is WRONG… hehehe… married men cheat coz they are greedy, not coz they don’t love their wives…

  39. selby on Wed, 29th Sep 2010 11:27 am 

    Ok, these rules sound like they come from the wife who sees the husband on sunday before church. since a gwanta everywhere and she is trying to threaten the beautiful girls who are looking for a sponsor. the husband tells the girls he will be leaving the wife, which is y some of them are still in the relationships. have a friend who’s been the other woman for over 15 years, she stays in centurion the wife and hubby stays in tembisa, he leaves the house at 11 every night. she has two kids with the guy, the youngest is 2, he always says it’s not the right time to leave the wife. she is looking for a bigger house since there is a new baby and he is gladly footing the bill. the only downside is when they discuss his divorce

  40. Vesa on Wed, 29th Sep 2010 11:27 am 

    Lmao!!!!

  41. syamthandaskota on Wed, 29th Sep 2010 11:35 am 

    Ahem missH…. One night stand or no strings attached fun. A makhwapheni receives a lot of attention!

  42. mistress on Wed, 29th Sep 2010 11:36 am 

    do you not want to get married at some point?

    I have mad peace with not being married i enjoy my personal space too much to let somebody else in.

    - How does your married lover feel about you hanging out with single boys?

    He doesnt mind because this is a man who trusts me and knows that i am done with the young guys … we are very open to each other , i dnt expect marriage from him and he knows that so he is very comfortable in our relationship …..

  43. Mathaz on Wed, 29th Sep 2010 11:53 am 

    Shocked and disappointed at the same time at most of the responses.

  44. KK on Wed, 29th Sep 2010 12:14 pm 

    1. Do not expect commitment -I agree

    2. We are not to be seen together in public – I agree even more but I dnt mind Movies cause its dark, lol

    3. Do not discuss me with your friends – I dnt really care,they wont see us together

    4. Don’t ask me for money – Infact,they give me money.

    5. My family is off limits – This I make it clear from the start.

    6. Should you mysteriously miss your period, contact your pharmacist or gynaecologist, I have no interest in your menstrual cycle.==> I actually care as pregnancy will have to be terminated.

    7. Do not call, text or email me after 5pm weekdays and don’t contact me during the weekend, for obvious reasons.==> You can contact me on that number that is always off when Im with the wife.

    8. Certain days of the year are reserved for my family. These include (but aren’t limited to) christmas, valentine’s day, birthdays and anniversaries.===>Fully agree

    9. Do not burden me with your emotional baggage, don’t call me to talk about your ‘feelings’ that’s what your gay friends are for.===>Its about sex,I have my wife for such things.

    10. Don’t contact me on any social networking site – petty gossip and self righteous quotes aren’t worth risking my marriage.===>If we friends on FB,only send me private msgs,no poking,no writing on the wall,no commenting on my status,SHE CHECKS ALL THAT.

    As a man,I agree with most stuff. But I also have bro’s who have mini families all over.They dnt buy them cars but borrows them some of their many cars.Its what happens in real life.Makwapheni is not about love,its about SEX and POWER among your circle of friends…

  45. Fezzy on Wed, 29th Sep 2010 12:33 pm 

    Tjo….I once dated this guy and he was married. We didnt last even a month cos I just got pissed. One night I called him and he started saying funny things like “No mpitnshi yami angiyanga, but tell u what, lets do this 2mrw” I just laughed my ass off and the following day I told him to piss off. I mean yena he can call me anytime he wants. No!

  46. Purple on Wed, 29th Sep 2010 12:44 pm 

    If u happen to go out with a married guy, dont fall for him.. make sure that its no strings attached..

  47. Zeal on Wed, 29th Sep 2010 12:54 pm 

    Kwaaaahahahahaha!! BOOOOOM!!
    @Fezzy, you were his makhwapheni, he wasn’t your makhwapheni, that’s why he could call at any time!!
    See, the thing with cheating, I think its easier if both parties have spouses left @ home, so there’s hardly a chance of clinginess, and one wanting more than this!!
    You guys kill me hey!!
    JC ya rocka shem!!!! Lol

  48. fruitcake on Wed, 29th Sep 2010 1:03 pm 

    * Pats her self* So glad I decided NEVER to get married.

  49. J.A.Y on Wed, 29th Sep 2010 1:08 pm 

    Nothing wrong with these rules – they are all spot on…

    …EXCEPT…

    …99% of Makhwaphenis would break all of them – maybe not at the beginning of the “deal” – but sooner or later they will start breaking them one by one.

    You give a dog a juicy bone then they start wanting some meat around that bone.

    Best not to have a Makhwapheni – try one/two night stands (with protection). No strings attached. No number exchanged.

    If you really want to have a second commitment (which beats the purpose of having an “extra-marital” affair) – then it better be with someone who is also in a committed relationship and has something on the side they want to protect.

  50. Zeal on Wed, 29th Sep 2010 1:18 pm 

    Last paragraph JAY- spot on!!

  51. Brown Shuga on Wed, 29th Sep 2010 1:20 pm 

    LOL J.A.Y bathong hahahahahahah

  52. Kiki on Wed, 29th Sep 2010 1:42 pm 

    It looks like there are two types of married men who cheat. The KKs & The LUSTAGPs…..I wonder which type scores more with the ladies…lol

  53. Lustagp on Wed, 29th Sep 2010 1:57 pm 

    Yes Kiki there are diferrent types.

    Some are wealthy man who have all the money in the world hence even wives will settle for second wives than divorce, AND there are those supported by the wives to have food on the table, shame cheating to them is a guilt trip.
    We both know who scores more with the ladies. LOL.

    Actually we have many different types, one day i will write a book.

  54. gudgal on Wed, 29th Sep 2010 2:00 pm 

    but guys wat abt married women who cheat?
    eva heard of that?

  55. Fezzy on Wed, 29th Sep 2010 2:12 pm 

    @Gudgal….Indlala…hunger…thats why women cheat!

  56. sim on Wed, 29th Sep 2010 2:46 pm 

    I disagree with most of Lulu’s rules. I was a makhwapheni &
    -he paid my rent 1st wk of dating & bought me a car 3rd wk
    -gave me his credit card 2 do shopping with no limit (I even bought 4 my family since he didn’t ask 4 receipts)

    -took me on a trip overseas
    -went out for lunch/dinner with his rich friends @ top restaurants, introduced me as his galfriend & we were seen in public
    -We did events 2gether – fashion weeks, J&B MET, etc (while wife was @home housekeeping)
    -spent weekends with me& visited me every single day after work. He only went home 2 sleep (shame poor wife, isi aram)

  57. ShortOne on Wed, 29th Sep 2010 2:47 pm 

    Ok the way I see it there are two main types of married men with “small houses” In my opinion it all boils down to How expensive can the potential divorce be.

    If it could prove detrimental to your financial situation ala Tiger Woods (divorce and loss of endorsements, business partners etc) you will employ Lulama’s rules.

    On the other hand if you think the wife will stay no matter what ala Theunis Crous then you write your own rules/have no rules.

  58. Vesa on Wed, 29th Sep 2010 2:54 pm 

    @purple….how possible is that that you would be intimate with a man over a period of time and not fall for him? It’s not in our nature as women

  59. syamthandaskota on Wed, 29th Sep 2010 3:04 pm 

    Zeal my kind, are you cheating on your man? Lol

  60. Uthando on Wed, 29th Sep 2010 3:20 pm 

    @Sim wenzangani girl i can do with a man like that

  61. Purple on Wed, 29th Sep 2010 3:28 pm 

    Vesa, always bear im mind that he is not urs.. n he doesnt love n neva will.. hes loyalty doesnt lies with the wife n kids, men r users n they dnt fall in love easily like woman do. Men can pretend for years

  62. Brown Shuga on Wed, 29th Sep 2010 3:43 pm 

    Sim, is your name Khanyi by any chance?

  63. TL on Wed, 29th Sep 2010 3:57 pm 

    What happened to him sim? Can I borrow or share him with you?

  64. truth-hurts on Wed, 29th Sep 2010 3:57 pm 

    All you women dating married men and pretending to be in control I have news for you!

    Women are incapable of doing ‘no strings attached’ we always end up falling in love and ALL of u mistresses know that you yearn to be in the front seat and not in the boot like a dirty pair of socks!

    Yes you may think you have it all because a man pays for this and that, but truth be told you are being used, the man loses nothing and you go along being his muse until he gets done with you and on to the next one.. Just wait the day you get sick, pregnant, wife finds out or whatever the case.. Men are quick tol run for the hills an all those sweet nothings you thought where true become NULL and VOID!

    One day you shall be married and only then will you understand how you sold yourself short by beong someones side plate!

    Proverbs 1vs19: such is the end of all who go after ill gotten gain; it takes away the lives of those who get it!

  65. Purple on Wed, 29th Sep 2010 3:59 pm 

    Sim, r u still with this dude? if so for how long? Do u think its gonna last?

  66. Purple on Wed, 29th Sep 2010 4:01 pm 

    truth-hurts, dats well said

  67. Vesa on Wed, 29th Sep 2010 5:02 pm 

    Thanks Truth-hurts!

  68. Zeal on Wed, 29th Sep 2010 5:23 pm 

    kwaaaaaahahahaha @syamthanda, I am not!! and how dare you accuse me!! lol

  69. sim on Wed, 29th Sep 2010 5:59 pm 

    Lol @ BS. No I’m not Khanyi cos the amount of cash he spent on me doesn’t come anywhere close 2 what Khanyi’s sugar daddies spent on her. I didn’t get a Lambo like her & he wasn’t 30 yrs older than me like Khayi’s. I didnt ask, he told me that his mission was 2 take care of me& spoil me rotten. @ 1st I refused & told him I don’t do married men but managed 2 make me say yes.

    @TL & Purple. No I’m not with him now, it was 2 yrs ago & lasted for 2 months. I was single when I met him& ended it when I met some1 else who wasn’t married & didn’t throw cash @ me like the makhwapheni. I did it once but don’t c myself doing it again

  70. sim on Wed, 29th Sep 2010 6:21 pm 

    oops meant 5 months not 2.
    kwahaha @ Fezzy “No mpitnshi yami angiyanga, but tell u what, lets do this 2mrw”

  71. Lady gaga on Wed, 29th Sep 2010 6:25 pm 

    @vesa hey sweety need to talk to u bout something pls email me here m.allicia@yahoo.com pls luv!! We will take it from there ;)

  72. lorrelai on Wed, 29th Sep 2010 7:31 pm 

    lol! hayi guys, all this cheating talk will scare other kids from wanting to get married.

  73. sefula on Wed, 29th Sep 2010 7:42 pm 

    @Lustagp thanks.
    @sim I need his email address

  74. Znat on Wed, 29th Sep 2010 8:24 pm 

    Iv been a different kind of a makhwapeni cause I didn’t know he was married. People get hurt in this game. I fell in love with someone else’s husband. He didn’t give me the option to choose. I broke it off the minute I found out. Married men, think about how your actions affect others. I loved this man, we talked about the future, we were always together, went on holidays, met his friends. I think in his own twisted way, he loved me too. The pain? I thought I was over it, but I find myself crying when typing this, its been a year since I stopped taking his calls. I’m ok though. Thought about telling his wife but she knows the kind of man she married.

  75. Znat on Wed, 29th Sep 2010 9:05 pm 

    he actually called me two weeks ago, said he still thinks about me, asked me to meet, told him I forgave him but I don’t want to associate with him anymore. It wasn’t about money, I’m very independent and self sufficient, I could call him whenever, come to think of it, there were signs that something was wrong, you can feel it,but I just brushed it off as me being too guarded.

  76. LG on Wed, 29th Sep 2010 9:23 pm 

    Mabatyiwe, mabaxhwithwe, mabaqushwe

  77. Lela on Thu, 30th Sep 2010 12:28 am 

    Kwaaaaaaaaaaaaaa @LG. Tjo I was getting scared by this cheating talk and truth hurts just made me feel so much better besendithi ngenditshate or ndiyozifunela ixhegwana ndibe ngumakhwapheni. I do know though that there are men who play the rules like this who are very serious about their families then kubekho oonopentana aba baxokayo ufike esithi he is getting a divorce.

  78. Bee10 on Thu, 30th Sep 2010 9:38 am 

    Oh wow what a nice read Lulu. U are spot on chap! Tomorrow its gona be a week since i got married. I’ve got 2 words for ooMakhwapheni YOU DESPERATE. I mean why on earth would you do that to your precious self. U know most mistresses will never accept marriage proposal not becouse they don want to but becouse they are scared that nabo bazokwenziwa iHousekeepers. In xhosa they say IVILI LIYAJIKELEZA. So to the makhwapheni’s enjoy whyle it lasts ladies. But just an advise do not do things u wouldn want to be done to you. Wait for your man/woman, shim is out there. The more you look the less you find.

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  80. cijimpi on Thu, 30th Sep 2010 3:40 pm 

    4 rules se moer..
    here’s the 4 rules 4 them Makhwapheni’s..
    Munya..Dunusa..bakuHlathe..Hamba kini!!

  81. Vesa on Thu, 30th Sep 2010 5:03 pm 

    kwa kwa kwa @ Cijimpi’s comment!!

  82. KK on Fri, 1st Oct 2010 12:30 pm 

    From a Male:

    “Given the right circumstances most men would sleep with another woman. That’s who men are, folks! The actual cheating doesn’t hurt anyone a fraction as much as the social blow-back, the incriminations, the women who make a big deal about it, society’s judgement. The real culprits that cause the harm are not the cheaters. Take this woman, for example. She ratted on Nel knowing the harm and incalculable hurt it might cause his innocent family. What a b*tch. Women can be so judgmental over men. Women don’t really understand a male sex drive or what it means emotionally for a man to sleep with another women. If women were born with the same sex drive and emotional make-up as men, they’ed cheat just as much. It is comparatively easy for a woman not to cheat because she doesn’t enjoy and is not motivated by the primal sex urge as much as a man. Women do not buy a fraction of the porn men do, or use it for stimulation; women generally do not pay men for sex; women have nothing like mens fixation on breasts or butts and will not go to anywhere near the same trouble as men do to spot their favourite body part; women do not masturbate anywhere near as much as men do; the list goes on and on… Men are built differently with different hormones – I am sick and tired of hearing about men being judged by womens’ standards. Women really are clueless about male sexuality. They think they are just as sexual and horny as guys: that’s how clueless they are. 40 to 60% of women cannot reach orgasm through straight penetrative sex compared to 90+% of men; women need extra stimulation or foreplay in order to reach orgasm and even then it is nothing like the success rate of your average man who reaches orgasm basically every time he has sex. Many, many more women than men are never able under any circumstances to reach orgasm. The fact that women are so sexually underperforming is not the mens’ fault, either: it is the women that biologically are much harder to stimulate to reach orgasm. Women have no clue what it is to feel the sexual urges and impulses of a man. Stop blaming men for being men people! Telling a man’s family and children he is a low-down dirty cheater makes YOU the bad guy! Women who vilify men for cheating are sexist: they are discriminating against a man for being typically male. I don’t condone one spouse cheating on another, but there is a difference here: a cheating man can still be a loving partner; a cheating woman generally signals that the end of any meaningful relationship has already passed. A man can cheat while still loving his partner; a woman generally cannot do this. For her sex is not just about the carnal act, it is always tied up with commitment and emotions. Men can be like that, too, but they can also have meaningless sex. So, women, if you would rather have your family fall apart than forgive a meaningless fling, then you deserve what get! It is just a pity about the kids that get hurt, not by the cheating (they couldn’t care less) but by the fact that everybody then lies about how Daddy is a Bad Man, or is a Dirty Cheater, or does not love Mommy anymore, or has hurt Mommy, or does not love them anymore, or… The list goes on. It is generally not Daddy who hurts the kids, it’s all those idiots who whine on and on about how terrible Daddy is, and convince the kids he is No Good.”

  83. KeedoD on Sun, 3rd Oct 2010 8:50 pm 

    That was mouthful KK and most part correct, but I sense bitterness fron ur side

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