Part 2: Exclusive Interview with Shona Ferguson

Part 2 of Shona Ferguson’s exclusive interview with Just Curious. Check out Part 1 HERE. This is a continuation.

Kiki : Are you still that violent?

Shona : NO, I am the complete opposite.

Kiki : Tjo, thank God I was getting worried about Connie. What changed you?

Shona : It’s an incident that happened and it haunted me for many years.. Eish, I have never been so deep with someone before…

Kiki : Don’t worry Mr Sho, it’s me you can tell me anything….hehhhh.

Shona : I was driving in Botswana with my mum and this guy almost drove into us. My mum went for the hooter even though I was the one driving. Then this guy opened his window and started cursing my mother. I would have just let it go, but when I heard him cursing my mum I lost it. I got out of the car and walked up to him, when I asked him what he had said, he literally laughed in my face and closed his window.

He had ladies in the car so I am sure he was trying to impress and that is always a big mistake. After he closed the window on me, I took my fist and I smashed it through the window straight into his jaw. I beat him so hard and my mum kept on screaming ‘Shona stop you’re gonna kill him’. When I finally stopped I thought he was dead coz he had passed out and I was really feeling scared. Just while I was still thinking if I should run to the police station and admit to killing him, he coughed and his 1st words were ‘I’m sorry, please don’t kill me’. I really cried that day because I felt even though he had been rude, he didn’t deserve that kind of beating from me. I couldn’t stop crying.

Kiki : How old were you?

Shona : I was 16.

Kiki : Hau,16? You were young moes… and how old was the guy you beat up?

Shona : He was in his 30s. When we got home my parents sat me down and prayed with me. They told me to pray for the spirit of anger that was in me and I started praying from that day. A year later I met this man, he was a Prophet and we had never met. He said to me, that I’m in God’s favor and because of that I need to stop thinking that I can solve my problems with my hands. He also said ‘The next person that you are going to fight, you are gonna kill him so you need to stop now’. But I had already made up my mind that day of the incident. I looked for that guy for months so that I could say I’m sorry but no luck, only 2 years later I saw the gal that was in the car with him, it was his girlfriend. She recognized me and I asked her to tell him that I am really sorry about what I did, I even gave her my number so he can call but I never heard from him.

Kiki : So that was the turning point for you?

Shona : That was it. Now people curse me and I just laugh it off. I don’t feel the need that I have to put my hand on anyone or express myself using my hands, I don’t feel that need at all. I don’t get angry Kiki; you can ask my wife she will tell you. It takes a lot to really get me ticked off and even when a person pisses me off I pray for them. I am in so much peace with my life at the moment so nothing shakes me.

My daily Prayer is : “God help me to be a better husband to my wife, a better father to my children, a better friend to those in need but most importantly, help me become a better child of God.” No human being is perfect; I know I can only be perfect in God’s eyes and not any other individual.

Kiki : You sound and look happily in love with Connie.

Shona : I love my wife, I have no doubt in my mind. It’s almost 9years since we got married and I love her more now than I did back then. It gets better and better.

Kiki : 9 years already? Just the other day it was your wedding.

Shona : Connie and I got married 2 months after we met. I know a lot of people think it’s 4months but it’s actually 2months. We had the white wedding 4months after we met but I paid lobola for her and did all the traditional stuff 2months after we met. Looking back now, I have no regrets at all because my wife gets more and more beautiful by the day.

Kiki : Ok ‘my wife’ you won the You Spectacular Sexiest Man sometime back. How do you feel about being considered a sex symbol? Are you a sex symbol?

Shona : No I don’t consider myself a sex symbol at all. I feel honoured yes but I think there is more to me than that. Even when I won that Award I couldn’t give a speech because it was a shock I never expected it. My wife is the only one who thinks I’m sexy, I didn’t know that people out there think I’m sexy too. I always say I know for a fact that my wife’s sexiness has rubbed off on me, because she is very sexy. She is the most beautiful woman I have ever met.

Kiki : Ok, I know that I arranged this Interview prior to the rumours and all the drama that has been going on, but I cannot just ignore it because people are going to ask why? How do you feel and where do you stand will all of this, the Buyile & Carol story and then Kagiso.

Shona : It boils down to what I said earlier, that I knew getting into this industry will come will all sorts of stories. This is exactly what comes with fame & popularity. I have a theory in life that with every one person that loves you then two hate you and the two that hate you, hate you because of the one person that loves you. So once you accept that then such things won’t break you. The whole Kagiso thing started before the Carol one. I think it started on Facebook and when we heard of it we just laughed it off but then boom came out the Buyile story. I know Buyile, I have had a few interactions with him and he comes across as a very cool guy. I don’t know Carol at all we have never met. So we saw the story on Drum then next it was Move but then the two stories contradicted each other. Still Connie & I didn’t read too much into it even though we knew where this story was going.

Kiki : Oh, so you already knew what the story was about?

Shona : We had an Idea from the 1st article. I even said to Connie as much as I don’t know Carol I think she needs spiritual guidance because really she sounded like she was going though some hectic stuff.

I even prayed for her and I hope God gives her strength. There is a line that says ‘when a woman is scorned all hell breaks loose’. I am not saying that’s her case and I am not judging her based on that. My wife is the best example, when she got divorced she didn’t blame anyone, point fingers or run to the papers, she just did it. It’s not just Connie but there are a lot of women that have been involved with people in the media and didn’t share their dirty laundry after a break up.

Because a person is in the public eye, any bad publicity sells, that’s just the world we live in where negativity sells more than positivity. The consumer doesn’t want to read or hear about the positive things and the statistics have proven that, Tabloids sell more than any other publication.

So to answer your question Kiki, rumours never slow us down because WE know the truth. A million people can have their opinions but if Connie & I know the truth then nobody else matters. We tell our children because we know that they are exposed to people throwing such things to their faces.

I spoke to Lesedi about the Kagiso rumour and she laughed to my face which goes to show just how much she knows me. I didn’t even know Sharon’s real name was Kagiso until this whole thing started about 2months ago. People think just because my wife is on Generations then I know everyone there on a personal level, that is not the case. I actually spoke to Kagiso for the 1st time at my wife’s farewell party a few weeks ago, that was the 1st time I had a conversation with her.

She was the 1st person that my wife and I saw when we arrived at the party and I turned to her and said “HEY KID, I HEAR YOU ARE PREGNANT WITH MY CHILD” and we all burst out laughing because that was the funniest thing..

She then said “Abhuti Shona, I actually released a statement on Move Magazine that people must stop wasting their time because I am not pregnant”

Kiki : So how did you make a baby with someone you don’t talk to and whose name you don’t even know mara Mr SHO?

Shona : Eish Kiki, the Holy Spirit is great. (he laughs)

Kiki : So this rumour started 2 months ago?

Shona : It was like a month after Connie resigned. A friend of Connie from Botswana is the one who sent Connie that email that’s been circulating and we only got it this week for the 1st time and that’s when I posted the Press Release on my website. Our email accounts are linked so I saw the email first before Connie.

Kiki: The email is in Botswana already? Wow, you are such a bad man…heheh

Shona : Yes apparently it’s big in Botswana and I am a playa…(he laughs). The down side to all of this is that the people that I interact with suddenly have a slight change towards me, I am being judged by people who don’t even have facts and I think that’s what hurt my wife even more because she knows me and the truth. Kagiso is a kid, she is a baby in my eyes. There is this stigma that men are bad so because of that people pass judgment immediately but it’s fine.

People started saying my impregnating Kagiso is the reason why Connie resigned. It’s funny because Connie resigned before these rumours started. She had been talking about resigning for the past 3years and 5months ago she said ‘I have made up my mind, I am resigning’ When she told me about it I told her that, because she has been on Generations for so long people associate her with the Soapie some will not understand why she would leave and they will try to find reasons that can make sense only to them, and this Kagiso’s story happened to be the perfect one.

It’s not the 1st time that I have been implicated in something like this and I am not going to get into details because it will be like I am digging up the past.

Kiki : Hawu, you got someone else pregnant as well?

Shona : About 4years ago and when I heard the rumour, I was like ‘WHAT??’ But I know where the rumour started and I saw it. It was on a blog on TVSA. Someone from Scandal told me to check it out because he was the one that loved reading websites. He told me again two days later that on the same blog now they are saying I have made the woman pregnant and that Connie & I are divorcing. Heheheh its like that, my wife and I are always divorcing and to be honest I think the latest divorce is our 4th one according to people.

Kiki : So how did that story end then?

Shona : You know if you are going to start a rumour you better get your facts right. You must make sure that the woman in question is pregnant for real. Don’t watch TV and when you see a character pregnant you assume they are pregnant in real life.

Kiki : And then the Buyile  & Carol story?

Shona: On the Buyile story, Buyile called me on that very same Sunday that article was published. He asked where I was and if I had seen the paper. Yes I had read the story and I was at the gym when he called. So it didn’t bother us at all we carried on with our daily routines. He asked if he can meet up with Connie & I because he wanted to talk to us.

Kiki : So Buyile is the one that called you? Because some people were questioning why you had to meet up with him, which means you don’t trust Connie.

Shona : God knows I trust my wife with everything I have. Buyile called me  and because I knew he was going to be uncomfortable meeting at a public place so my wife and I suggested he come to our house the next day which was a Monday. When he called he was close to tears, I could tell that he was in pain. So when I saw him that Monday he was drained, he really looked like a man whose world was collapsing. He put it on record that he never told Carol that he had an affair with Connie, there are a lot of things that he said that are personal and I can’t say them because it’s about him, he will say it when he is ready. Throughout the entire conversation Buyile never mentioned one negative word about his wife, ever. We sat with him for 2hours.

To me that man touched me when he said he came to apologize on his wife’s behalf and for that he is sorry for what he is putting us through. He took responsibility for his wife’s actions. And all I could do was give him advice, as a husband and as a father. I told him it’s because of the Industry he is in. If Buyile was not on Generations there wasn’t going to be a story at all. I didn’t judge him for anything or other things that were alleged about what he did because it’s not my place and it’s none of my business. The fact that he came to apologize because my wife & I were implicated in something that we are not a part of, I felt he deserves respect for that. We wish them God’s best.

I want to say this; No individual will break Connie & I up no matter how hard they try. The more they try the stronger we get. So every time you throw a bullet at us, trust me you are just making us stronger, you are making us more successful, you are making us more committed to each other and you just re ignite the spark.

I refuse to talk to Journalists, you are actually the 1st person that I am talking to and it’s because of the faith & trust that I have in you and also the love and respect I have for you.

Kiki: Eish, please don’t make me cry.

Shona : I am serious, they have been calling the publicity department on Scandal and I told them I am not even going to entertain them so whoever wants answers must go to my website I posted a press statement there.

Kiki : Before we wrap up, tell me, are you Involved in any charity work?

Shona : Yes, Arms Of Salvation is our charity. They take care of abused women and children including AIDS orphans, I am extremely passionate about that. I am currently working on trying to get them bigger premises to make it easy for them to help these people in need.

Kiki : My Payoff question, If you were to die today, what would you like to be remembered as?

Shona : I would like to be remembered as a man who loved with all his heart & soul.

Kiki : Ok, thank you so much Mr “MY WIFE”

Shona : Hahhahahh it’s a pleasure my sister and I apologize for making you wait.

Ends.

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Interview by Kiki Marli for Just Curious©

Pics: www.shonaferguson.co.za & www.etv.co.za

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