The Latest in Celeb Trends: Husband Snatching
September 7, 2010 by Zamani Khethelo
It all started in the Late 1950s during the prime of “Old Hollywood Glam”, when Hollywood sweetheart; Debbie Reynolds (The Jennifer Aniston of her times) made a late-night call to her Best Friend; Elizabeth Taylor (The Angelina Jolie of her times)’s hotel room for a quick chat.
Only for her call to be picked up by her Pop star husband; Eddie Fisher, who was supposed to have been in another town and not at Elizabeth’s bedside.
A shocked and bewildered Debbie who could hear that her best friend was in bed with her husband, yelled at him, “Roll over darling, and let me speak to Elizabeth”.
And that was the moment it all began… Elizabeth Taylor; The Surrogate Godmother to all “Classy Home Wreckers” was born. Paving the way for others in many generations to come.
Most noticeably Angelina-Jolie, Alicia Keys and our very own Khanyi Mbau…
“The Classy Home wrecker”; I term them as such, because they manage to do it in such a manner that their integrity still remains intact with no harm to their careers.
Elizabeth went on to marry Eddie Fisher and won an Oscar during the same time frame of the scandal, Angelina has started a brood of offspring’s with Brad Pitt after snatching him from Jennifer Aniston and still maintains a high profile acting career.
Alicia has married SwizzBeats after stealing him from fellow singer Mashonda, and is now performing and jumping on top of pianos with his baby bump, and as for Khanyi…well in her own words, she still “LIVES!” for a living, despite putting a major dent in Primrose Crous’ household.
We have accepted “The Classy Home wrecker” as a part of our society, and have learned to love to hate them, but now it seems like it is getting out of hand to starting to seem to happen as often as Khanyi Twit pics her “LIVING” on Twitter.
Fresh after recovering from Angelina, Alicia and Khanyi’s sagas. former Country music teen queen, LeeAnne Rimes rocked the tabloids with news of her scandalous affair with former “Sunset Beach” hunk, Eddie Cibrian.
Both being married and having cheated on their spouses at the time of the affair.
And just as we were still recovering from Lee-Anne and Eddie’s scandal, American Idol alumni Fantasia Barrhino sent shockwaves through the music industry because of an attempted suicide, stemming from claims that she had a sex-tape with a married man.
The same married man later to be seen photographed with her after she left the hospital, after making an attempt at her own life.
And just as we were starting to simmer down from the Fantasia scandal… A couple of weeks ago, news hit the internet that R&B veteran Monica had just started a relationship with NBA baller Shannon Brown, who had been in a seven year committed relationship with his “Baby Mama”.
Both Monica and Shannon have gone on record to vehemently deny that Monica was a home wrecker and their relationship began after Shannon’s relationship with his “Baby-Mama” had already disintegrated.
But I bet the “Baby-Mama” is singing another tune… And it’s definitely not “Love All Over Me”; Monica’s latest single in which Shannon Brown is featured as her love-interest in the video, and where they initially hooked up.
Has the population ratio of men really gone so down that women have to resort to stealing or rotating men amongst themselves in order to get some good loving?
And if this is the case, who is to blame?
Do we blame God for not making our mothers give birth to enough boys, Or should we point the finger at “The Gays”, who have also become a force to be reckoned with, in the struggle for women to find their ideal mate.
The pool of good men for women to attain, has become smaller and smaller and I guess that’s why the pack of “Classy Home wreckers” is growing by the day.
“The Good Man” has become endangered species, and the single woman has become the worst threat to the married woman.
As the “Single woman” will come hunting for what rightfully belongs to you, snatch it and leave you all shattered with little cubs to raise on your own, as they start their own brood with YOUR man. And it does not seem that there’s any protection against “The Single Woman” who’s on the hunt. Angelina, Alicia, Khanyi and co. have made this very evident.
The only advice I can give to the married woman; is to make sure that you sign the tightest Pre-Nup agreement. One that is so tight that if he cheats, you walk away with almost all of his belongings. The Other Woman can have him, but at least she won’t enjoy the luxuries you were accustomed to.
This is just my own insinuation and not a fact, but I believe this probably the leash that Primrose has on her old man, and why he did not stray too far and always came back after a night at ‘The Michelangelo Towers”. If this is true! I say; “You Go Girl!”
It’s a tough world out there; “The Married Man” has become the most delightful prey to capture and finally now I know and get to understand why the likes of me are single and still searching for “The One”. We first have to be married to someone else before our “Soul Mates” can come and snatch us away from our legally wedded partners.
So as I close this article, I am sending a marriage proposal to all the readers out there.
Ladies! Gents! Please DM me your CV’s via Twitter or FaceBook. Race, Gender, Creed does not matter; I just need to up my marital status, so I can meet my “Soul Mate” after I get married.
I NEED! My (C.H.W) “Classy Home Wrecker” to come snatch me already…
By Zamani Khethelo ©
Twitter: @Za_Maniac
Zida on Wed, 8th Sep 2010 1:00 am
Interesting topic! Many women have admitted that the reason why they go after married men is because such men have proven that they can commit, provide a secure and stable environment for their spouse; and I believe they want a part of that.
Commenting on the examples above, it’s amazing that Alicia Keys didn’t get the same backlash that Fantasia received. Could it have anything to do with dark skin vs light skin and how the latter is mostly favoured?
By the way, that pic of Fantasia after her hospital stint was a snap from the shooting of her reality show, I believe they will feature the talk they had at the park.
On Monica, I’m glad she left that “mbungulu” Rocko; although I don’t know why go for an involved person. I hope it’s a change for her though from the hood guys she is so fascinated with.
As for the rest, I don’t care to comment.
Lehakoe on Wed, 8th Sep 2010 1:17 am
lol @ pointing a finger at the ever-thriving gay community. Men will always be looking for sumthing better, and that’s y there are divorces galore. It’s a pity I’m not on twitter or fb mara if Authentic Views doesn’t mind he can post his contacts up here. There’s sum’n about his intellect that intrigues me.
Kiki on Wed, 8th Sep 2010 3:33 am
…”Alicia has married SwizzBeats after stealing him from fellow singer Mashonda, and is now performing and jumping on top of pianos with his baby bump,”.
kwaaaaaaa at jumping on top of Pianos,*dead*
Fezzy on Wed, 8th Sep 2010 7:01 am
There are so many GAYS these days, amadoda awasekho so I kinda understand why all this is happening.
Bruised Ego on Wed, 8th Sep 2010 7:18 am
Nice article Zamani, but when it comes to the entertainment world I don’t think that these women steal married men because there are fewer men available.
I think it all has to do with money & spotlight, look at Khanyi she’s only chasing after rich men (I’m sure they young single & stable guys out there), Alicia doing the very same thing. I would agree if they go around stealing random married guys.
If it means they can’t control themselves, can’t they at least steal men that are not married?
SanN on Wed, 8th Sep 2010 7:20 am
Gabrielle Union also joins the list of Home wreckers with basketball player Dwayne.
I think being a homewrecker is the saddest thing u can do. Esp. when they are kids involved, it is beyond famous no matter how famous, rich etc.
With that said I do though want to emphasize that the main in all the scenarios are the married men. In a world were there is so much temptation, distractions etc. It is the married man who should be able to control oneself, and respect his marriage.
But i have a question why is it that all these men who clearly have fallen out of love with their wives. First get a divorce and then go crazy with any ho. Why is it that the wife must find out,get hurt, and then they get a divorce. If u know u haven fallen out love with someone, just leave that relationship instead of hurting a person who has bn so loyal to you. Its selfish* #justsaying
nan on Wed, 8th Sep 2010 8:01 am
weh! fidelity sana is going like the dinosaurs i tell ya …
Zeal on Wed, 8th Sep 2010 8:28 am
ja neh, what is the world coming to mara??!! shoo wee!!
nice article Za!!
i agree with you Fezzy, so many gays!! #nothomophobic
Lady gaga on Wed, 8th Sep 2010 8:29 am
“homewrecker” there is no such thing.it simply means either one of u was willing to move on qha!!*does this make sense?,oh well
*!!!
fruitcake on Wed, 8th Sep 2010 8:35 am
Kwaaaa @ Zamani wanting to get hitched just so he can be snatched.
Why do we call it husband-snatching not man-whoring. Both parties are guilty but we end up blaming the woman. At the end of the day, the man is the one who should shoulder most of the blame. They are the one’s who made their vows before God, they are the one’s who do the pursuing(most of the time) but the society make them the innocent parties in the equation coz they are being ‘snatched’, hehehe
Nice article BTW.
Q-tee on Wed, 8th Sep 2010 8:55 am
“The Good Man” has become endangered species, and the single woman has become the worst threat to the married woman.”
This one finished me dead…Zamani wow, you such a good writer. But yah, the scarcity of single and available men is a Single Lady’s nightmare.
Dladla on Wed, 8th Sep 2010 9:20 am
LOL’… We want Pre nup! We want Pre Nup!!
I agree on the fact that, these Classy Home Wreckers manage to steal people’s men, and yet their integrity still remains.
Morzino on Wed, 8th Sep 2010 9:41 am
For me I thnk it depends what man snatching is , both the man and women participated in this thing but people always blame the woman as if she forced this man to be with her. He left because he wanted too no one put a gun on his heard and said leave your wife and marry me. Ohhh as a matter of interest : So if he is my ex and I want him back but he is now married is that also called man snatching? Or man claiming ?
Luluwise on Wed, 8th Sep 2010 9:59 am
Well, it is as we put it down here in the EC “umntu uthathwa emntwini”. Kushiyana izinene ukufuma! (please don’t ask me translate this lol).It is what it is, men are forever on the prowl for fresh meat and as already pointed at there aren’t enough of them to go around, so you are left with two choices, celibacy or somebody else’s man. I often hear women saying I’d rather be single and wait for a single man than to date a man already involved, kudos to you if you have than much self control, for the rest of us, we do what we want so we can get what we need!
Lady gaga on Wed, 8th Sep 2010 10:08 am
*BOOM* @Morzino……well put!!!
MizzT on Wed, 8th Sep 2010 10:40 am
Its not fair that women are the only ones being blamed on this equation. What about the man who is cheating on his wife? In most cases, it is the man who goes after the so-called *snatcher*. He is just a greedy bastard, why not leave his wife if the marriage thing doesnt work for him anymore? He just want to have his cake and eat it *sies*
Shame, some women fall for the “Im single crap”. Women must face reality, what are the chances that a grown ass man is single, available and waiting for you? At least try to get to know his background firt before u claim gore he’s your name, and become embarassed. Phela women get carried away, after 1 date only, chikita is ready to write and publish a book about the new man. Easy, gal….take time to know him *singing*
Veevee on Wed, 8th Sep 2010 10:45 am
Al of scary What ever happend to Respecting wedding vows and what not what ever hapend to Hz married = unavailable.
Sobza on Wed, 8th Sep 2010 10:49 am
Kushiyana izinene ukufuma!
Tjo Luluwise the way oyibeka ngakhona shlobo….it sounds so wrong
MizzT on Wed, 8th Sep 2010 10:52 am
@Veevee: what if he lies to you about his marital status?
Vesa on Wed, 8th Sep 2010 10:56 am
I agree with those that believe that a man cannot be snatched! People grow apart/ fall out of love etc. But the problem is they tend to stay (for whatever reason) until they get caught
Vesa on Wed, 8th Sep 2010 10:58 am
@Veevee: what if he lies to you about his marital status?
They lie all the time, but it won’t be long before you figure it out.
Luluwise on Wed, 8th Sep 2010 11:19 am
@ Sobza oopz, wish I could delete it.I just said what came to my mind now that I see it, mhhhm, but uyaybona mos le way ndiyitshoyo.
Sobza on Wed, 8th Sep 2010 11:33 am
@ Luluwise, kwa kwa kwa….ndiyakuthola
Uthando on Wed, 8th Sep 2010 1:28 pm
Nice read Zamani BIG UP TO U
Fab Tee on Wed, 8th Sep 2010 3:07 pm
lol @ luluwise!…uthin na apha kum!
Bee on Wed, 8th Sep 2010 3:21 pm
lol at women thinking/saying that amadoda are few/scarce whereas amadoda are all over the place maybe its becouse these men are busy wasting their time macking on wrong people like me instead of going for women who are in need lol. hayi kuntima…..
Beautybaby on Wed, 8th Sep 2010 3:30 pm
@Morzino and Lady G, was faced with similar situation just yesterday, sistas telling me that he has known hubby since high school days and when they met up again i was already in the picture, hehehe. Oh well told her to go a yo zikira e matjeni (sp),
To answer ur question yes its man snatching.
Keesh on Wed, 8th Sep 2010 4:15 pm
http://www.thadoghouse.com/2009/09/26/mashonda_has_some_words_for_alicia_keys/
Keesh on Wed, 8th Sep 2010 4:30 pm
if u hv a “man” sum1 is bount to snatch him from you, if u aint got 1, you get tempted to snatch 1 from some1…bottom line is some men are weak, selfish
Keesh on Wed, 8th Sep 2010 4:37 pm
if u hv a “man” sum1 is bount to snatch him from you, if u aint got 1, you get tempted to snatch 1 from some1…bottom line is some men are weak, selfish & greedy. they take chances on lonely desperate women… swizz & usher(tameka & da TLC -gal) wer no gagged & drugged or forced into anything they didnt want!! its all about self control- & it aint da only thing lacking in da men department
! men show grow up & ladies grow some pride & some self-respect!!
Buhlebonga on Wed, 8th Sep 2010 6:00 pm
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chilled sweet lemonade on Thu, 9th Sep 2010 10:18 am
The truth of the matter is that all girls/women yearn to meet a guy who will sweep then off their feet etc….then life just doesnt turn our that way…..you eventually meet a guy who treats you well and 6 weeks down the line you discover that “oh s*it” he is married/in a relationship….
but wait….you think back and realise that he has treated you SO well that its hard to leave him even though you know that walking away is the best thing you can do for yourself.
sometimes its easy to blame the other women ( who is naive to his situation) but sadly these men whip the cream all over our eyes that its hard to “right the wrong”.
men are hunters and that will not stop.
you may be in a “loving” relationship but just be weary of those small things he does when you in public together…..that roving eye…the questions about your friends…little hints that make you do a double take….
ladies there is an african proverb that goes: Dont be so in love that you not able to hear the rain outside.
peace:)
Uthando on Thu, 9th Sep 2010 1:22 pm
@Buhlebonga eish i tell you that toilet sh#t izoqhawula imitshato yabantu nyhani it is so wrong i tell you, it disgusting.
I never wanna find my self and my personnal matters on that site NOooooooooooooooooooooo
Smatsatsa sa Welkom on Thu, 9th Sep 2010 3:08 pm
Lenyalo le fedile, single chicks need to suck a lemon a deal with it.Banna ha ba kgotsofale and this is a wordl wide phenomena…..
chilled sweet lemonade,the only solution to the roving eye is a shot gun!
sk1 on Mon, 13th Sep 2010 10:16 am
@ chilled sweet lemonade mmmhhh well said!!!!!
Morzino on Mon, 13th Sep 2010 11:04 am
@Beautybaby.. you go girl. Men leave because they want to, because they get something that they are not getting in their homes. It means Alicia keys was giving him something he has never tested before:-) mhhh just saying.