Gold Diggers’ Memorandum

beyonce on Mon, 15th Aug 2011 12:42 am 



Imali ebhankini qha bhuti ayixoxisi !!

Exclusive on Mon, 15th Aug 2011 1:04 am 



Am I reakky reading what I think I’m reading? Maybe I misread, lemme post this comment and re-read and try reason out what the author of this entry may be trying to put across to us as readers.

lorrelai on Mon, 15th Aug 2011 1:08 am 



All I know is, nobody wants to marry a poor guy, even those who’ll never admit it. Poverty is poverty, it’s like a disease, no one wants it. Let’s be real, if no one wants to marry a rich man for fear of being called a gold digger, then who’s gonna marry all these rich men. It’s a personal choice really, people will always find sonething to be judgmental about.

Whether its for love, money, looks, whatever, if u wanna bag them then why not? it’s your life.

Exclusive on Mon, 15th Aug 2011 1:17 am 



On second thought, no energy for reading again right now. Very nicely written article, don’t support all your arguments, but the most important point that I reason with you here is that people need to fall back in drawing conclusions about other people. But I long for the day I hear a just-married wife say that bit about money, lol » yoh! Hhayi

lorrelai on Mon, 15th Aug 2011 1:26 am 



” whereas it is wrong to say, “when I saw your bank balance, I knew you were the man I wanted to spend the rest of my life with.”

People have killed their partners for money, so verbally admiting to people that u (let’s say married) your spouse for money would not be such a great idea, just incase people ask themselves,
“if she married him for his money, wouldn’t she kill him for his money?”.

Money sometimes is a controversial issue, so because of that reason alone, we will continue to sound hypocritical.

Znat on Mon, 15th Aug 2011 1:38 am 



“when I saw your bank balance, I knew you were the man I wanted to spend the rest of my life with.”

That killed me! Tltltl I will not marry or date a broke man. If that makes me a gold digger, then so be it. I fully agree with you Mablerh, everyone has different reason to get married. The problem with our society ie. Blacks is that we still feel that having money will make one arrogant and go to hell (insert bible verse), that’s why the idea of choosing a partner based on their bank balance is ‘a disgrace’. Money can buy love, its the best aphrodisiac ever. Money alone won’t sustain a relationship but lack of it won’t start a relationship, at least with me. Fakimal’uzobona! A broke man has issues nje

As always, I loved reading your work.

Jahara on Mon, 15th Aug 2011 1:41 am 



yoh @Mablerh u sooo right!

If a man is allowed to say ”ur beauty captured my heart & i knew u were the one”…
…then a woman should also be allowed to say ”ur bank balance captured my heart & i knew u were the one”.

Tjo,i was grilled the other day by my colleagues for choosin who i date. I told them i wanna surround myself with people who are makin it for themselves (enterpreneurs),not waitin for month-end to get their bread buttered. The reason is because i myself am an aspiring enterpreneur so in a way i need not only love but also mentorship from them.

Yoh…u should have heard the things they said to me. So i told them i dont care what they think anyway,because its my life & i choose who should feature in it.

So i think men who date women for their looks should also be labelled BEAUTY DIGGERS.

Nice article @Mablerh.

Znat on Mon, 15th Aug 2011 2:03 am 



Even before civilization, women never chose men cause ‘they looked good’ they chose men based on their ability to provide. Let’s stop this hypocrisy cause kahle kahle every woman is a gold digger. Let’s accept the truth: men approach women cause of the way they look, we give them our number cause of their bank balance. Its is what it is and its ok.

RexonaABC on Mon, 15th Aug 2011 2:38 am 



Hayi. I hear you Mablerh. I agree one has a right to set standards for what s/he wants. I believe in a self development, because in the end relying on another human being for one’s future is kinda very risky. Having said that tjo, there are some men, who ll throw their bank balances on ‘your’ face, believe me “ha u akhella ntja lesapo e tla le nka”. I agree one needs to be with a person who has potential of bringing some kinda of moolah, but at what cost are ‘we’ willing to settle with such a person?

Raquel on Mon, 15th Aug 2011 3:15 am 



Nice one Mablerh. I agree with EVERYTHING you wrote here. I am not rich yet nor poor but I do not date broke men and I won’t even marry one. Its standards that I’ve set for myself. The most important thing in a relationship/marriage to me is FINANCIAL security everything else comes after wards.

facebook on Mon, 15th Aug 2011 4:08 am 



I foresee a lot of “I don’t want to date a broke man”.

What is it that women want?

Do u want a Motsepe bank balance in a man?

Reality is not every man will accumulate such wealth.

I believe one should chose a partner based on how s/he compliment u. Ofcz s/he has to compliment u financially too.

ugogal on Mon, 15th Aug 2011 5:14 am 



Great article. This is the unsaid truth.
i’m not sure if ppl have noticed but there are a lot of male gold diggers these days but they are not show offs like females. The male gold diggers know exactly how to make a woman feel like a queen and the woman wont hesitate to let them move in, drive her car, buy clothes for him bla bla bla

Jellytot on Mon, 15th Aug 2011 5:45 am 



If you are gonna be a gold digger please make investments as a back up plan. You never know when that man might be tired and want someone fresher, who nags less. Ya’ll know you will start nagging soon

lbg on Mon, 15th Aug 2011 6:59 am 



I partly agree with this as in that attraction is attraction regardless of the reasons I once had a crush on a guy because he had side burns. In a general view the is nothing wrong with being a gold digger, personally I do not like it for me, we see the girls move from bottom to the top nd back to their asses and have to find another daddy. Most gold diggers do not acquire anything for them selves and if the guy dies nd ur not in his will what then, its okay to date a man with wealth but a girl has to hv a foundation so that the extra privileges are stretched beyond a shopping mall

Sgoloza on Mon, 15th Aug 2011 7:05 am 



I aint saying she a gold-digger, but she aint messing with no broke nigger!

These days I believe being a gold-digger has become the norm. Even men know now that aint no puffing and passing. A woman’s gotta be maintained by what she calls a man.
What woman likes to be chowed then taken to go grab a pie and coke? None!

Gold-diggers are women who know their worth shem, and its unfortunate that women who can’t ‘dig’ always go on abt independency as though gold-diggers aren’t independent in their own right. Gold-diggers have something you don’t ‘independent’ women, and that’s GAME! That’s why they driving Range Rovers wrirtten under their names and all you’ll ever drive is your Hyundai Getz. Power to Winning Women! Gold-diggers, you inspire me! Just check out Kimora Lee Simmons, biggest gold-digger to date, play your game well!

DexterSUPERIOR on Mon, 15th Aug 2011 7:06 am 



Tjo! Am I at a gold-diggers convention here? Women need to make their own damn money. They’ve got so many needs, you’d think they’d be motivated to grow their own damn bank balance. Damn! Standards? How dare you set standards for yourself when you don’t have a dime to your damn name. Beauty-diggers? Ha! Stop finding silly excuses for your damn laziness. Get off your butt, go get that degree and start making your own mine. What is this world coming to?

@JoneighGALAXY™| GP ZA | AFRICA | 22CD64B6 on Mon, 15th Aug 2011 7:59 am 



The problem is w/ society & how it has socialized women to have utter dependency on a man’s wealth / gold-digging-by-nurture. A man who’s wealthy has always been seen as the most manly & the most appealing of all men. True independence of Women lies in them letting go of what society has lied to them ’bout wealth & that men are the source of a good life. Because we live in a capital-driven society, women must now be generators of capital. Y’all have been socialized to think otherwise of capital for far too long. I believe women & men are the same, the problem is that we socialized differently. Men are nurtured into power and freedom, women on the other hand are nurtured into utter dependence & confinement. Women have been socialized to be weak (depending on someone for capital), Gold diggers are weak. #TruthBeTold

Having said that, there’s nothing wrong w/ dating a go-getter (not necessarily someone w/ lots of disposable income), but your life shouldn’t revolve around someone else’s bank balance. I’m currently in talks w/ a potential lover, the person ain’t rich but they sure got their head sorted & has plans for life, & strategies on how to achieve those plans. I’m attracted to the ‘carpe diem / seize the moment’ mentality they have, but my life don’t depend on that persons state of being.

DexterSUPERIOR on Mon, 15th Aug 2011 8:13 am 



@Joneigh, it’s refreshing to know that girls of your kind still exist. Don’t change your mind set. It’s possible for women to have their OWN gold mines to dig all they want.

You ladies just need to be inspired. Google the top ten S.A. female millionaires. See how they did it and follow their path.

Lela on Mon, 15th Aug 2011 8:28 am 



It is lust at first sight whether it is driven by the persons beauty or finances…….since my man has neither I wonder what ours is called.

Vesa on Mon, 15th Aug 2011 8:42 am 



@Znat….how do you know a stranger’s bank balance at the time of giving numbers?

LG on Mon, 15th Aug 2011 8:46 am 



I was independent til I became unemployed 4 months ago. I started dating my broke boyfriend same week of unemployment.I knew him thru a friend so it wasn’t a guy I met.

When we started dating, he just started his new job after he was unemployed for 3 months, so he had debts 2 settle. He settled for less salary-wise, earning half what he was earning b4. I dated him stil. I also thot I’d get a job soon.

I had 2 move out of a 1 bedroom flat I was renting & move in with him. He pays rent & all expenses he was paying b4 I moved in. The differencce is that he buys more groceries now. I get R500 from my younger brother just to buy airtime& go 2 interviews. My BF is broke shame, he can’t even spoil me. He took me out 3 times these 4 months. He loves me though.

I can’t even buy myself a t-shirt & I’m a shopaholic. I also enjoy eating out but I’m not getting that now.

I tried leaving him twice after an argument but he begged me. It’s true that financial problems on both parties can affect a relationship cos we fight almost everyday.

I’m now looking 4 a mine where I can dig gold, like a side dish who can provide the lifestyle that I want. It’s the 1st time in my life that I want 2 do that.

Sgoloza on Mon, 15th Aug 2011 8:51 am 



I feel sorry for women who get ***** for free. We tend to think gold-diggers aren’t independent wara wara, look @ your Gerry Elsdons, Basetsana Khumalo’s, Carol Bouwers, abo Sonia Booth. They’re all gold-diggers and are educated and successful etc etc. Get your piece of the pie ladies, or else, you’ll be chowed till kingdom come and end up with a hanging ‘nana’ for nothing. Why can men have a good time on you mara wena abakhu yenzele fokol? Now that’s a dumb b***h. You’re probably a joke around your man’s circle of friends. The money he’s not spending on you, he’s spending on someone else anyway. Get yours and stop being a dumb pawn to men Miss anti-gold-digging. You let a man dig through you just nje? And u won’t dig ur share?

Jellytot on Mon, 15th Aug 2011 8:58 am 



remember money is disposable just like you are as his “wife”. shem im jealous, would love to wake up each morning and do nothing all day. i dont blame gold diggers for their “ambition”

Owami2012 on Mon, 15th Aug 2011 9:09 am 



Hi JC fam.. @Mablerh Thank you..

Well I always say * 2 blind ppl leadin each other always ends in disaster* betta cry in a mini copper s than in a taxi or bus.. I see nothin wrng wit wantin a good life for yourself I mean u have pretty much struggle half your life nd u aren’t winnin the lotto, u nt gettin th@ job u studied for, ur current employer is payin u peanuts .. So if a rich man who has it all and more wants to share his wealth wit u , why not do it? I mean his also gainin sumthing frm u isn’t it?? Opposites attract angithi (rich men love poor woman) rich + rich = disaster but rich + poor = happiness (dt bite me)… All I knw is if u ndt drive a nice car , have ur own place, nd nt makin good money then u nt my type.. I have wrked hard to the best of my abilities nd I aint gettin rich anytime soon frm what um cuurrently doin .. Nd no nt every1 can be their own boss nd make their own money.. If u think I’m a gold digger then DEAL with it cuz I dnt give a rats ass…

ambivalence on Mon, 15th Aug 2011 9:10 am 



Morning everyone! Nice read too…I just have to say this,even though we would never utter the vow about money but its still it is the invisible middle man in a marriage,in this case the man in the fore front or whatever,we can’t change people’s perceptions about others hence the term ‘gold digger’,clearly we are all gold diggers because no matter how much I believe in independence I won’t go for some lousy broke ass nigga when I myself worked my butt off…yoh singalamba ngabantu who can’t think for themselves but are willing to think about me and my hustling ways.I refuse to have my cause of death written as’murdered by husband along with kids then he commited suicide’ due to financial issues

sim on Mon, 15th Aug 2011 9:12 am 



I met old rich men who said “I wanna take care of u”. I said no cos I didn’t like them. One looked like Mugabe. Imagine kissing & wakin up next to Mugabe every morning. Nightmares every night.
I’d date a rich man if I like him but wud never date a rich man I don’t like.

I once dated a rich guy 4 the 1st time. He was in JHB, I was in Dbn. I met him in Dbn. I didn’t know he was rich, I found out the 1st time he flew me 2 JHB. I flew 2 JHB every 2nd weekend.

The only thing he bought me was a nice expensive watch when he went overseas. He asked what I wanted &I said a watch. When he asked, “is that all?”, I said yes.
I had a gud job &didnt want him 2 think I was after his money. He spent on eating out & partying.

He expected me 2 ask & I wasn’t willing 2 do that. I liked the fact that he didn’t throw money @ me like some rich men. I enjoyed the fact that I knew he was rich even tho I wasn’t there 2 dig

Luluzee on Mon, 15th Aug 2011 9:25 am 



I make my own money, I am ablt to sustain impilo yami – but I won’t marry a broke man. I always say that whenever I get married: my current standard of living needs to be maintained or it need to be elevated. Like I won’t go for someone who is going to decrease my current standard of living. Kanti sizebenzelani?

Sgoloza on Mon, 15th Aug 2011 9:29 am 



@JoneighGalaxy, are u saying men dig in u for free, mahala? Trust me kid, the money he aint spending on ur ass, he’s spending on another womans. Wena nje, you’re a free dinner that’s a joke amongst his friends. what man wouldn’t like a woman who just gives it up and he doesn’t have to maintain you Miss Independent? Learn from abo Precious Motsepe, Carol Bouwer and and and! Just because a person’s got a PhD doesn’t make them less incapable of being a gold-digger. Men don’t like women who act like men anyway, they want to know they’re needed, that’s an ego boost for them. He will find someone he will shower and not a feminist who’s trying to prove she got buying power. I just can’t help but think what your man is good for. Why would even call him a man when his tendencies are so whimperish anyway?

BlindFold on Mon, 15th Aug 2011 9:37 am 



@Sgoloza..i so agree with you, one thing our generation has forgotten is that men i mean all men have egos that have to be maintained and that can only be done if a women makes him wanted, makes him feel that he is in control despite the fact that a woman is able to buy herself thee most expensive shoes or car. The reaosn why there are so many divorces is that Basadi ba tella banna, ba ya delela abafazi..yekelani please

Cutie on Mon, 15th Aug 2011 9:47 am 



You seem to be referring to either broke or rich. What about our hard -working men who don’t fall in each of these categories? I’m referring to our lawyers, accountants, actuaries etc…who are not necessarily rich but are doing well in their careers?

I beleive that a woman should be able to sustain herself. I beleive a woman should go to school and get herself proper education. I beleive a woman should not lose her identity and validation by being a housewife and nothing else. (That is just my opinion). Having said that though, I don’t think women should sustain a man’s life. We can all meet each other halfway. Look at this KB story (if its true). Relationships are bound to go bad and I beleive a woman should not stay simply because of financial security, but for other reasons. Remember after the age of 30, these rich men tend to look for younger more beautiful chicks. What will happen then if you don’t have a career? Trade your kids?

Cutie on Mon, 15th Aug 2011 9:50 am 



@Sgoloza – Remember Mr Motsepe married a doctor, not just a dump prety face that has no idea of what’s going on. Look at other succesful men whose ego is intact. They marry women who match their intellect.

Hle1803 on Mon, 15th Aug 2011 9:56 am 



I’ve learnt that in life whether you do good or bad the world will always judge you, so do what makes you happy! For all I know its better to cry in a porche than a toyota tazz, love will not put food on the table, yeah money won’t buy you happiness neither will living in a shack with 20people! Good morning peeps

sxylin on Mon, 15th Aug 2011 10:06 am 



LG ur man @least provides no matter how little he does; kuzobaright nana; don’t go inviting trouble in ur life!

For me ; having my own career, blah blah and still be married to a wealthy man; I like to think I married strategically LOL; to make sure u stay @ whatever level I am or elevate! For example ; take a look @ this man *Martin Kingston * (CE0 of Rothschild) this man was married to Tselane Tambo; when he married he made friends nabo Trevor Manuel, Tito Mboweni etc what do we call this if its not a strategy on his part! When he divorced Tselane he went on to marry Pulane Msimang Kingston who is the daughter of the late Manto Shabalala Msimang; Now tell me ladies and gentlemen if this man just happened to fall in love! He was securing his life both politically and financially !

BlindFold on Mon, 15th Aug 2011 10:12 am 



@sexylin..what are u saying?

Vesa on Mon, 15th Aug 2011 10:22 am 



What will happen then if you don’t have a career? Trade your kids?

This just made me lol! Thanks Cutie one

Znat on Mon, 15th Aug 2011 10:35 am 



Deathby DexterSuperior : Gold digger’s convention? Tltltltl

@JoneighGALAXY™| GP ZA | AFRICA | Carpe Diem | Seize The Magic | 22CD64B6 on Mon, 15th Aug 2011 10:58 am 



*Sits next to Cutie*

@Sgoloza / @Blindfold My potential lover is a go-getter who’s not comfortable w/ a mundane life, but I refuse to believe that my being should revolve around a man’s bank balance. Wanting material things isn’t the only way to make a man feel wanted. #RealityCheck *snaps fingers*

To be perceived as respectful, calm, graceful doesn’t have to depend on a woman giving up her independence. This has nothing to do w/ feminism or trying to prove a point, it’s about the need for women to start asserting themselves outside of the confinements of patriarchy. It’s men w/ small dix (metaphor for your weak egos) who always feel that women are trampling on them / emasculating their rights by daring to dream of power & influence. That’s why what is feminine is always perceived as powerless and what is masculine is seen as all powerful. If you tell a man that he does things like a woman, you’re insulting him. On the flip-side of the coin, if you tell a woman that she does things like men, it’s seen as a compliment.

I believe that one can be a powerful / independent woman and still be respectful, calm, graceful woman to her life partner and society at large. Your small dix mentality (metaphor for your weak egos) ain’t helping you men.

Lustagp on Mon, 15th Aug 2011 10:58 am 



Man love gold diggers who dont show their gold diggerness tendencies, at least have something to your name and then rich men will follow your ass! rich men date varstity school girls because they know they have a direction in life, it is sweet you want a good life but dont be soo damn lazy so much that when i am gone in your life, you will be a flop pap broke girl!

Gold digg with strategy and have your own direction in life!

Sgoloza on Mon, 15th Aug 2011 11:03 am 



Donald Trump married a super model who happens to have no education, but can obviously stimulate him mentally etc etc. Some women can work hard all their lives but will never land a man of Trumps calibre, we can’t generalize. There are very wealthy men out there who are very much content with marrying Ntombi without a degree because Ntombi makes him feel a man and a half. He will groom Ntombi himself, put her through school, teach her in’s and out’s of serious business. So every pot has its lid. Wealthy men love being with women who appreciate them and what they do for them. it’s a sense of adventure for him, to rescue his queen.

Sgoloza on Mon, 15th Aug 2011 11:21 am 



Men love women who they have room to groom. Women they can show new things to, women they can ‘save/rescue’. They even take their gold-diggers to school and pay their tuitions, and even go further career wise than little ‘I’m miss independent” which obviously won’t gel well. Donald Trump married an uneducated super-model, so let’s not even talk abt doctor wives who are unhappy and holding onto none-existant marriages for dear life *side eyes precious motsepe*

RexonaABC on Mon, 15th Aug 2011 11:35 am 



You can say that again @Lustagp. Man love gold diggers who dont show their gold diggerness tendencies, at least have something to your name and then rich men will follow your ass! rich men date varstity school girls because they know they have a direction in life, it is sweet you want a good life but dont be soo damn lazy so much that when i am gone in your life, you will be a flop pap broke girl!

It is one of the reasons why some women will stick with a rich abusing partner, cos they didn’t develop themselves for rainy days.

Owami2012 on Mon, 15th Aug 2011 11:42 am 



I love @ Sgoloza ( let’s get married)

Back to topic @ hand… Nt every1 is smart , wil be a business owner or doctor, nt every rich guy wants a woman with a PHD , degree or nton nton .. We nt saints no one is… So if datin a rich man makes 1 happy then so b it.. The Gold digger is a term used by ppl who want wat the do cold GD have .. But as Sgoloza said dfrnce between the Haters nd Diggers is GAME… #dnt hate the player hate the GAME…. Abo MIss I have it all I dnt need a man neva have a man .. Wat man wants to marry a woman who has the same ego as him.. Mina I wanna b the neck my man must b the head nd make sure I am comfortable.. Um nt poor I live a comfortable lifestlye but I want more I want the glitz nd glam I want a holiday to Miaimi tired of durban (lol) .. Look all um sayin is i need more I can’t wait till um 40 to get mor.. For now I have wat I can afford but if Mr Rich can giv me mor then so be it.. #NB nt all rich guys are ugly nd fat nd I want thos cute one who have 6 packs nd the rest.. Abo Mr BEE me mikhaba nd flowary shirts dankie ngiyabonga shame…

Jellytot on Mon, 15th Aug 2011 11:58 am 



@owami but atleast have a trade, you dont have to be a phd. even if he marries you selling vegetables, be woman enough to expand that vegetable venture! you dont have to be too stupid or too clever.

snapshot on Mon, 15th Aug 2011 12:20 pm 



@Joneigh, it’s refreshing to know that girls of your kind still exist

@Dexter kwaaaaaaaaa!!!!!!!!!!!!!! u just killed me shem {GIRLS}

kimmo on Mon, 15th Aug 2011 12:24 pm 



tjo dexter!

Hle1803 on Mon, 15th Aug 2011 12:25 pm 



Nare are people confused, not every GD is uneducated or not working, since uve titled a woman who has a rich man a GD! I for once don’t thnk all GD are stupid, and not all house wives are either! I have my own money cause I work and I’m educated, but I’m not into those big mines or petrol industries were a lot of rich man are and dnt see my self as that business woman whose never at home cos I have to attened meeting all over the country next thing I come back my kids have grown up *nanny took care of them* never that let my RICH man do that and ill take care of the house, I for 1 dnt think its wise to be married to umuntu who earns the same salary range as I do, he must elavate my lifestyle, he is a Man after all, and as much as I’m takingcare of my self now sure he can do a better job at it! Call me Gold digger but hey life is not a rehersal while we sit and judge how ppl are living we forget to live our lives!

TheSushiQueen on Mon, 15th Aug 2011 12:38 pm 



Just like someone said above, we’re going to be reading “I won’t date a broke man” comments all day long..

Anyway, just an observation: After Khanyi Mbau showed us her #winning ways (unapologetic gold-digging) now everyone including their mothers, now think they can and are entitled to be with a rich man. Hell look at the Jozi scene- girls dressing up to look the way they believe would attract a rich guy ( the high maintenance look etc) or going to places where the rich hang out.. Problem is, we now have an over supply of women on the look out for brothers with cash, and the pool of these men (Single men that is) is very small. So what happens? Some women resort to dating married men (who more often than not have better bank balances than single men) and these men also start to feel entitled to dating more than one woman cause they know that they’ll always be that one girl whose willing to overlook married and relationship status because hell the guy is “loaded”..

Some girls they believe they can “steal” the guy or rather, if they can’t, at least enjoy the (expensive) ride along the way..

So I think the transaction is fair. U want me for my looks, I want you for your cash.
And anyway, don’t believe the hype, being an “independent” woman aint all its cracked up to be.. Lol!

Lustagp on Mon, 15th Aug 2011 12:42 pm 



you want my cahs at least have brains, be able to debate about politics, general life issues intelligenly i hate airheads with ‘looks”~just saying!!

TheSushiQueen on Mon, 15th Aug 2011 12:44 pm 



But why do people want things from other people that they themselves would never be able to provide? Someone said they won’t get rich anytime soon from what they’re doing right now, so why demand something from a partner that u can’t provide yourself? Isn’t it hypocritical? #Just Curious..

@JoneighGALAXY™| GP ZA | AFRICA | Carpe Diem | Seize The Magic | 22CD64B6 on Mon, 15th Aug 2011 12:51 pm 



@Snapshot kwaaaa This is the only topic where I’m going to accept a sex change. *cues Dexter…*

Cutie on Mon, 15th Aug 2011 12:52 pm 



I respect everyone’s opinion. I am one of those women who want to take this “WOMEN EMPOWERMENT” opportunity while its still happening. I don’t want to look back 10 years down the line and have regrets at all. I don’t want to be those women who move into their “aunts/mom’s” or whoever house after the divorce because they can no longer afford the lush lifestyle. I want to stay in the same neighbourhood/type of a house even after the divorce. I don’t wanna be those women who have to downgrade and send their kids to public school when the man is gone. Anyway we all have different dreams. Mine are those that our government is working very hard to to make them possible.

Botshelo on Mon, 15th Aug 2011 1:23 pm 



My baby daddy has got money, Euros to be exact
Im in love with a person who dosent have rands

Sometimes love is better than money, when looking at the heart ache Euros brought to my life and the hapiness cents are bringing.

I rather sleep smiling and content than book myself the most expensive hospice because the Euros are clearly headed that direction.

Jellytot on Mon, 15th Aug 2011 1:39 pm 



@JoneighGALAXY™ you know i was wondering why everyone thinks you are a lady, cos i remember you being a guy.

mamamia on Mon, 15th Aug 2011 1:40 pm 



One fundemental thing most important to men whether rich or poor is RESPECT. Men want to be respected, in as much as women want and need to be LOVED.
So loving a man for his money does not equal respect as much as loving a woman for her looks does not equal love.
Why do i say that, well because if you really respected a man wouldn’t you also respect his hard earned money? Depriving yourself of the finer things in life out of respect for his money….hmm not likely.
On the looks issue, you love someone because of the way they look, what happens when they get hit by a car and their face is broken or run into Mercy Phakela with a knife. So will you still love that person when their looks are gone or faded with old age….hmmm not likely.
Love in its essence is not shallow but rather money and looks are shallow reasons to be in love with someone.

Botshelo on Mon, 15th Aug 2011 1:54 pm 



One fundemental thing most important to men whether rich or poor is RESPECT. Men want to be respected, in as much as women want and need to be LOVED
And the bible says so as well

Owami2012 on Mon, 15th Aug 2011 1:57 pm 



I think ppl r gettin this twisted.. As @ Hle1803 said nt all or mst GD r stupid or uneducated sluts who want to be house wives…. For one I wrk earn a decent salary and um content wit my life @ the moment.. But again I dnt want a man who wil be in the same salary bracket as me ( 2 blind ppl leadin each other, Neva th@) so all um sayin is I wnt date a guy who is nt financial suited to add one extra person to his budget my man must afford himself his toys nd me … @Jellytots so u c … Um nor typical GD( if th@ wat u might refer me to) but I want to knw th@ my man has his shit sorted nd I wonr go a day starvin akhona … I dnt want one of those um rich in your face typo guys.. But I want to live a comfortable life #ithankU….

DexterSUPERIOR on Mon, 15th Aug 2011 2:14 pm 



My bad @Joneigh. I don’t know why I jumped to that conclusion.

Sgoloza on Mon, 15th Aug 2011 2:15 pm 



If only there was wealthy brothers on JC to comment, instead of bitter “independent” women who have to work 5 times harder to get what Miss Gold-digger gets overnight. *sigh*

DrDee on Mon, 15th Aug 2011 2:32 pm 



Hello @Alexis good to know you are in the house.New name!

DrDee on Mon, 15th Aug 2011 2:34 pm 



Thanx @lusta.You summed it up nice and neatly.Men want gold diggers with a brain.

prettylicious on Mon, 15th Aug 2011 2:45 pm 



Even a wealthy female would definately go for another wealthy man. I haven’t seen any woman who is rich but yet date a broke man unless the lady is dating ithsothso.

Owami2012 on Mon, 15th Aug 2011 2:54 pm 



@Sgoloza u will be the death of me *can sum1 give me Heavens speed dial number* hahaha ….

Nothing wrng wit earnin a little extra.. Who nami ngifuna uku saver I salary yami.. Quick question *since our soccer player are gettin paid on the real … The girls th@ date this guys * e.g Minnie , Mpho Maboi and the likes.. R thy GD’s?? Cuz I dnt thnk Mpho is datin Lethsolonyane (sp) for his looks *dnt crucify me I will do it my self*

Biskiti on Mon, 15th Aug 2011 3:03 pm 



A good friend of mine told me that he married a lady from a rich family because “It is easier to learn to love someone than it is to make money”.

Yes Gold digging ha sbeen around for centuries and guys are jumping on that band wagon and nami if i was previously and currently disadvantaged (financially), i’d make sure to be in my physical peak, so that i can attract all those Indipendent magogos desperate for a shag(love). I’d take that short cut in life, it’s not like i’m stealing from anyone.

Viva subtle gold diggers viva!

Hle1803 on Mon, 15th Aug 2011 3:05 pm 



Starts singing in Zion’s voice *No I won’t settle for less, no I can hide and I know you see, I only want the best for me no I’m not trippin, you call me picky say what you atleast I’m saying evrything upfront, won’t settle for less* when ever struggles come around I need someone who will hold me down* done singing! With that said if not settling for less gets one a name so be it! Don’t wanna be miss All I need *Thebe’s voice*

kimmo on Mon, 15th Aug 2011 3:09 pm 



@drdee, who is alexis now!

Alexis on Mon, 15th Aug 2011 3:30 pm 



@Dr Dee, I’m silent blogging love.
don’t want to get blocked

Alexis on Mon, 15th Aug 2011 3:31 pm 



uhmmm, I take it I’m blocked once again *yawn*

Sgoloza on Mon, 15th Aug 2011 3:35 pm 



So ur saying wealthy should date wealthy, poor should date poor? Where’s the balance in that? Wealthy men want average women, wealthy women must go marry broke guys and stop being bitter. Face it, some women have better luck than others

Senamile on Mon, 15th Aug 2011 4:35 pm 



Nice article,i have no problem with people who date others for financial gain,i myself do it all the time. I’m 20years old and i’m tryin to be financialy independent but because i’m still working towards a qualification in order to secure a good paying job i need someone to take care of my finances,hence i dnt date regular niggas wid regular ass jobs.

Esteer Loda on Mon, 15th Aug 2011 4:38 pm 



Tjo! Guys I am broke, maybe gold digging won’t be such a band idea.

Senamile on Mon, 15th Aug 2011 4:42 pm 



My ‘boyfriend’ is a 51year old white male and he takes very good care of me. People give us weird looks in public they can tell what da deal is between us,but f*ck it i drive beemer bitches

Bigmama on Mon, 15th Aug 2011 5:14 pm 



@Senamile how old r u if I may ask???? I’m also dating a white 51 yrs old and wealthy, I hope we r not sharing a man.

Bigmama on Mon, 15th Aug 2011 5:15 pm 



@Senamile how old r u if I may ask???? I’m also dating a white 51 yrs old and wealthy, I hope we r not sharing a man. Mine was in Uk for a week last week came back on friday.

Ramon Thomas on Mon, 15th Aug 2011 5:49 pm 



You should checkout this blog I reposted about a Craigslist gold who finds out women are depreciating assets. As you know men like George Clooney have become more and more handsome, and in demand as they get older. I don’t see the same happening with a supermodel after 40 or 50.

So Gold diggers have their highest success when they are in their physical prime e.g. between 20-25 years.

@JoneighGALAXY™| GP ZA | AFRICA | Carpe Diem | Seize The Magic | 22CD64B6 on Mon, 15th Aug 2011 6:08 pm 



@Senamile / @Bigmama I really hope that y’all not sharing a lover like Mad33m3 and I a few weeks back. *flashbacks then chuckles facing the direction of Lebowakgomo Limpopo*

Even though I don’t really believe in this whole gold-digging for a living situation, I’ve made interesting observations about the behaviour and differences that exists between african cash daddies & caucasian cash daddies w/ regards to the way they treat their partners. I’ve noticed that african cash daddies will take care of you yet he’ll not see you exclusively while their caucasian counterparts will really take good care of you in all aspects & still continue to respect you as his ‘official side dish’ / ‘skhaftini’ by only focusing on you exclusively w/o thinking of you any less in worth.

Bootylicious on Mon, 15th Aug 2011 6:26 pm 



Big up to all the gold diggers, I have a job earn a decent salary but if I were to find a mine I would definetly dig, lead me in da right direction ladies maybe I’ll find someone to pay off my car and my house

Senamile on Mon, 15th Aug 2011 9:20 pm 



I’m 20 goin on 21,i realy hope we arent. What car does ur ‘daddy’ usualy drive?

Bigmama on Mon, 15th Aug 2011 9:29 pm 



What I can say is that he is busy businessman. He is awaiting his new merc to be delivered this week.

noma4 on Mon, 15th Aug 2011 9:52 pm 



Yho this is some deep staff damn Mablerh such truth *standing ovation*

Pumpkin2701 on Mon, 15th Aug 2011 11:09 pm 



I really agree with MaBlerh on this. If anything, thank you for speaking the truth. Im 20 years old, smart and very ambitious family. I come from a middle class family, nothing extravagant but my father affords to not work, and my mom works for the love of it. Im the youngest of 4 girls and everybody in my family is quite old, im a laat lametjie. I get spoilt. God has been good to our family and although my sisters didnt get the same things, they make sure that i do not want. I thank God for that.

with that said, i refuse to date a poor guy. Im very sorry. I have my way of doing things and its just the way i want things to remain. Im not looking for an old man or somebody to pay for dates or buy me clothes or anything, i have my father for that. But i want someone who is on the same level as I. I honestly cant! I cant be with someone who shrieks when I want to go have lunch at 15 On Orange. I dont want someone who is constantly telling me how bad they have it at home and giving me a guilt trip when i want to buy a new pair of shoes. Im not even going to apologise. I stress again that Im not looking for someone to pay my bills or anything, my father worked hard so i didnt have to look for people to do that, but im not about to deal with bruised egos everytime i say “I dont like KFC, lets rather go to Salushi, my treat”….

My mother always says ” baby, we didnt take u to some of the best schools in the country so that you can struggle. you cant leave a family where ice cream was basic and you marrry into one where ice cream is saved for christmas”

Never that! and Im not even apologetic about it!
Viva sisters with hi standards

Pumpkin2701 on Mon, 15th Aug 2011 11:14 pm 



Senamile you go girl!!!!! do whatever suits your fancy, all those people who talk must just sit down! I personally wouldnt date a 51yr old but im happy that you are doing you despite everyone constantly judging you…

Women must stop lying to themselves! we all want rich men… nobody wants to struggle. the only reason women hate on women with rich men is because they wish they were the ones with the rich man!

Pumpkin2701 on Mon, 15th Aug 2011 11:16 pm 



haai mara ladies stop agreeing to being di side dish…aowa… you are worth much more!

Pumpkin2701 on Mon, 15th Aug 2011 11:23 pm 



Owami…I feel you sister! ” i want to know that my man can afford me, his toys and me” couldnt have said it better myself

Pumpkin2701 on Tue, 16th Aug 2011 12:04 am 



and sont be stupid gold diggers toe… go to school, get your own and get someone who has his and more… and dont forget to make sure that it is all in your name…

@JoneighGALAXY™| GP ZA | AFRICA | Carpe Diem | Seize The Magic | 22CD64B6 on Tue, 16th Aug 2011 9:13 am 



“… and dont forget to make sure that it is all in your name…” *rolling eyes*

You didn’t work for it, you slept for it in the guise of love and marriage often misleads women into giving them a sense of entitlement to what their man own. We affirm / justify our love through materialism. I’m all for the in-community-of-property-accrual system-. What I made before we met stays mine, we can share (privilege) but not co-own. What we make during the course of our marriage is ours.

Pule on Tue, 16th Aug 2011 9:26 am 



the generalizations on this post are so funny but myopic.
There are no rules to these things.
Some like them educated,some like them blonde.
some like gold digging side dishes,some like pay as you go.
some like them big,some like them small.
some like them wild in bed,some like them submissive.
some like them fake and others get turned by their lies and fakeness.
there is no one rule for gold digging and man/woman thing in general.
find what works for you and stick to it.
Going to school does not necessarily improve your digging career,time and chance happen to all gold diggers.

mamamia on Tue, 16th Aug 2011 10:16 am 



@JoneighGalaxy makes more sense than all the women on this site put together. lol.

#Gofigure

Nicolene Molefe on Tue, 16th Aug 2011 10:42 am 



I love this!! Its so true people are so quick to judge “Gold Diggers” Well the whole thing that gold diggers are woman who don’t want to work and want to live off another persons hard work is not true. I am a working woman. I work and I have achieved alot more then my peers, I pay my rent and my transport to work. But I would probably called a gold digger, because I do not date broke guys, my reason behind this is that I think if a man wants my time, my company, than he needs to be willing to make it worth while for me. He needs to show me that he can do for me what I can’t do for myself. I do believe in love, but I doubt I will be falling for a pertol attendent or somebody who drives a corsa lite, its my instinct to search for a man who can take care of me financially, as well as physically, intellectually and emotionally. Id rather be called a gold digger than date a broke man and be drop off at the taxi after a night where he had all the orgasms and I got none, not even a new pair of shoes, so whats in it for me? Give me the money!!

Mapakisha on Tue, 16th Aug 2011 12:57 pm 



It’s a job in itself being a Golddigger, I mean one has to sleep with a not so attractive man who probably would still be in primary school if ne re passa ka botle. You have to stroke his very/non existent ego, tell him all sorts of wonderful things that are a complete lie cos he grew up with nasty peers that often told him the ugly truth about the way he looks/smells. Any golddigger deserves a medal for what they go through to live their lavish/comfortable lifestyle.

Lustagp on Tue, 16th Aug 2011 1:18 pm 



hheheheh tjo, JC bloggers ni-special shame!!!

you cant leave a family where ice cream was basic and you marrry into one where ice cream is saved for christmas

LOL..LOL….LOL…

Mapakisha …….hehehhehehhhe, nawe you in on this? hehheeh

Monei on Tue, 16th Aug 2011 1:57 pm 



A pastor at my friend’s wedding once said ” there is no romance without finance”. in the context that, the man must work hard to provide for his wife, and she should in kind kp him happy at home.

nna, personally, i believe a man must upgrade u in life. Ke a tella, so need a man i wnt backtalk, i look up to, who can mentor me,etc. same reason i wnt date a guy shorter than me. I’m one of those who needs to be shut up and told to relax and let the man do his thing coz i’m so used to doing things for myself and have opinions and ideas of the way things must be done, that the dude will HAVE to have more than me and def know me than me for me to regard him as my MAN. I’m not saying i’mma be dumb, but just the way i dnt want less clever than me, i don’t want shorter than me, and less finances than me.

kimmo on Tue, 16th Aug 2011 1:57 pm 



@lusta its true though!

Esteer Loda on Tue, 16th Aug 2011 2:31 pm 



So Love the JC family!!

Lustagp on Tue, 16th Aug 2011 2:37 pm 



kimmo..i know!!1 hehehehhehe

Wild Island on Tue, 16th Aug 2011 3:09 pm 



tjo heeeeeeeeeee mehlolo”Starts singing in Zion’s voice *No I won’t settle for less, no I can hide and I know you see

@JoneighGALAXY™| GP ZA | AFRICA | Carpe Diem | Seize The Magic | 22CD64B6 on Tue, 16th Aug 2011 3:19 pm 



Your pastor was indirectly promoting legal prostitution, very troubling. “… A pastor at my friend’s wedding once said ” there is no romance without finance”. in the context that, the man must work hard to provide for his wife, and she should in kind kp him happy at home…”

*Closes my eyes & bows head stretching my hands to the heavens*

Ohhhh Lord of mercy, ohh Lord of hosts, I come before thee in all humbleness and gratitude. I only ask of one thing father, I only ask of one thing from you father.

*raises hands higher*

Please father make me a woman. Make me a woman so that I can show your lost daughters how to be what you intended for them to be as the Queen mother of King Lemuel says in the Book Of Proverbs (31: 1-20). Ohh Lord ohh Lord my GOD YHWH make me a woman so that I can show these daughters of yours that it doesn’t help being in relationships based on the principle of prostitution irrespective of whether you educated or not. A man must give finance for a wife to give head, now my Lord GOD YHWH what utter rubbish is that???

*jumping up & down in a frenzy of the Holy Spirit*

… Make me a woman Lord, make me a woman my Lord GOD of hosts, I ask for womanhood only for this moment please. Someone needs to be an example to the lost sheep of Jerusalem.

*Stops to check any physical manifestations / changes*

I’ve seen women on the verge of leaving bad marriages stay b/c their ill mannered man bought them a new car. I’ve seen women loose themselves in worth b/c of the gains of materialism, it’s like saying that the value of a woman can always be bought by a new house or a measly car or hand bag. My Lord what utter rubbish is that??? For cash or for worse, that’s what marriage has downgraded to become. There’s no sanctity in the concept of the modern day marriage, it has become a practice of the forsaken world of capitalism. No wonder some of your daughters look down upon the state of being married, who needs to be turned into a commodity.

Ohh Father I come before your Throne of Power and Might, I bow before thee my Father Lord GOD of hosts. I ask in the presence of the heavenly council for my request to be met. I ask that woman realize their potential and the power you bestowed upon them. W/in every woman there’s a Sarah (Abrahams wife had a greater spirit of prophecy that her husband). Women thou art blessed now start living life like you supposed to. Let it rain, Let it happen!!!
*Claps in the spirit of praise*

Pumpkin2701 on Tue, 16th Aug 2011 5:25 pm 



what people tend to over look is this, we are not saying we wont go to school or get our own. Monei I agree with you, a man has to uplift you to another level… Im studying towards a qualification, one that im going to be very good at. Im going to have my own car, house, the likes. I deserve that good life, an expansion in my life should not be a dreaded cost. I dont want to constantly worry about tomorrow.

Im a firm believer in education. im also a firm believer in the good life. Ive seen how my father takes care of my mother. my mom shops abroad, has no expenses whatsoever and gets an allowance and she is a teacher.. but she does it because she loves it. They have been happily married for 33 years now. My dad’s world revolves around my mom and they are best friends. so no ways. If you are going to use a taxi to come visit me, im very sorry we cant be together. if you are going to come ovr using a taxi, dont bother asseblief.

aowa kgale le jewa mahala all these years, now that we want everything to be worth our while for once nyana we are called gold diggers? id rather be one then…

Pumpkin2701 on Tue, 16th Aug 2011 5:31 pm 



*starts singing* no I wont settle, settle for less…

coolcaz on Tue, 16th Aug 2011 9:01 pm 



Let’s eat the money gals, circulation

Nthoentle on Wed, 17th Aug 2011 1:23 am 



LoL! Interesting

Nthoentle on Wed, 17th Aug 2011 1:25 am 



Eish I’m late, Monday was my birthday. My pressies cost R12k, maybe I’m a gold digger? LOL

MissAN on Wed, 17th Aug 2011 10:18 pm 



Say that again @ Nthoenhle. You guys kill me!

Lol @ Dexter thinking JG is female. That miracle is still in transit.

@ Lungsta indaba ye ice cream! Lol!

Welcome back @ Alexis/Sgoloza! GD President.

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