Insufficient Funds
November 2, 2011 by MaBlerh
I have often been told that the best writing is done by those that write from within, people that draw their stories and convictions from personal experiences. Apparently, when you do so, you command the reader’s attention and you force him/her to read your entire work. I always refrain from writing such articles as it fools people into thinking that they now have an exclusive insight as to who I am. I find that I have exhausted all the impersonal topics that exempt me from feeling anything as I write. Although I have been told that I come out as a very angry person when people read the stuff that I write. This time I will allow the fools to be fooled as I write about something that is somewhat personal and which a lot of people out there will relate.
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I have found that we have bestowed the remote control to our feeling upon the hands of those around us. Some of us may go on the “thick skin” tip where we pretend that nobody can keep us down. The sad thing is that nobody has a skin thick enough to avoid feeling something when those that you hold dear to you say unfavourable things about you. The world has tricked us into believing that the saying, “umuntu ngumuntu ngabantu”, should apply in every aspect of your life. We are of the belief that we are meant to co-exist and that those that do not are miserable. Thus we find ourselves trying to reaffirm that we are creatures of co-existence by surrounding ourselves with people that can only be described as baggage. People that are worth keeping are those that make a positive contribution to your life. Having said all of the above, I am brought to what really inspired me writing this peace.
This is something that has found me at a point where I have had to distance myself from people that I have considered friends and family. Yes, family. My version of distance is not to completely cut someone off but it is to place that person in a position where what they say falls into deaf ears. A place where you do not have to see them unless it is really necessary. A place where you are civil when around them and you are still able to converse and share a joke or two. This is a matter of friends, lovers and family that make you feel that they are doing you a favour by associating themselves with you.
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I find nothing more insulting then a “friend”, “lover” or “family” member that will air out your flaws and then end the character assassination by the fact that they tolerate you because they love you. This annoys the hell out of me because in all of the cases, the person that says that is the one person that you take a lot of crap from. If the order of the day was not to tolerate any crap from anybody, nobody would have a friend for more than two months. The truth of the matter is that we are all full of shit and those close to us tolerate our flaws because of the positive things that we are contributing to their lives. That being said, I have not met anybody that qualifies to assassinate another person’s character and tell them that they tolerate that person because they love them. Nobody.
I am the type of person that always reflects upon his personality. I know my weaknesses and strengths. I live with me everyday, I would be an idiot to think that I am the perfect human being to be friends, lovers or related with. I know that I’m a self-righteous son of bitch, I do not bite my tongue for anybody, I can be a royal asshole, I get an orgasm when I get what I want, I’m allergic to stupid people who say stupid things with conviction and I have no filter between my mouth and brain; therefore shit just flows through. I say things daily that surprise as much as they surprise the next person.
The flip side of the above is that I am as loyal as a dog to those close to me, I am honest and dependable, I am generally a warm individual, I am fun to have around and when I invite you into my life; you feel the love and the care. That’s all I have to offer. Heck, that’s all I got. I always encourage people to spend time with themselves and discover their draw cards and things that other people might find unsavoury. Having done that, go on and take the top 10 people that you surround yourself with and do the same for them. After you compare notes you will realise that nobody is doing you a favour by being your friend. Nobody in your life can stand in front of you and act like being your friend equates to what Christ did for you. I advise you that the next person that brings up your flaws and then tell you “but I love you regardless”, flex your tongue and lips and then play the very same card to them brutally and ensure that when you reach your full stop; they have that blank expression and shock that one gets when an ATM returns a slip that says “Insufficient funds. Please contact your nearest branch.”
By Mablerh
sarai on Wed, 2nd Nov 2011 1:11 am
*hops out of SV*
Ditto to dat Mablerh….!
My 2 best friends once planned an intervention for me. They were laying all my negative attributes bare n asking dat I become a better person or our friendship is over!
D way I flipped – I’m sure dey still remember my reaction even today! Like urself I give my love and time faithfully….dats wat I do best! I have my flaws….. But dat gave them no right to gang up against me cos I also take a lot of nonsense from them. But I overlook those becos I value their positive contributions more.
Today we r still good friends(after a year of nt talking) bt I have my reservations with them……
IhateNickiminaj on Wed, 2nd Nov 2011 4:41 am
You’re a perfect writer no Doubt about that but I have a problem with ur negativity that’s all.I guess people are different hey and we should accept each other
licious khumalo on Wed, 2nd Nov 2011 6:44 am
i just love the way u play with words…..gud article!!!….talking about friends doing u a favour…i had this other friend who just wanet the worst outta me..my crew never liked her bt i was ok with her,only to learn after that all she wanet was info about my life to spread my weaknesses and all the bad things i do or say all over…i still have nothing against her though…
freckles on Wed, 2nd Nov 2011 6:59 am
Now here’s a real article and not the lame cosmopolitan liners! 10 ways to get him back *yawn*!
I looooove this post cause I relate! I’ll be giving a few the insufficient funds expressions. I’m gatvol manje!
PreciousPearl on Wed, 2nd Nov 2011 7:22 am
Wow mablerh I’m soo relating to this right now,I’m tired of making excuses of who I am and what they consider my negative side to my friends,like if they don’t embrace my imperfections who says they themselves are perfect?! this is soo Profound u are brilliant writer!
Tinky-winky on Wed, 2nd Nov 2011 8:09 am
Since we are not perfect we are all guilty of character assassination somewhere some how! I’m I right o I’m I right?
Hle1803 on Wed, 2nd Nov 2011 8:27 am
Oh wow *standing novation* this really hit home kimi shame! *wipes tears*
Pana on Wed, 2nd Nov 2011 8:27 am
Great article MaBlerh, I for one can relate.
People usually do that when you outspoken and they think they can just speak shit as they please forgetting that wena you outspoken but you not rude
For a sec there I thought this article was gonna be about money – feels like a nigerian movie – heading or subject line is always towards the end of a 4 hour movie and it’s only 5 minutes
blaque on Wed, 2nd Nov 2011 8:34 am
let the fools be fooled, Blerh o senya ntho tse ntle ka negativity e na ya hao.
Nosmilo on Wed, 2nd Nov 2011 8:55 am
Mablerzozo you’re gifted hle!
And where’s the negativity y’all are talking about? SMH!
freckles on Wed, 2nd Nov 2011 9:25 am
Those going on about negativity must go jump. Should ppl sugar coat things all the time? This article is to the point. The negative thing here is ur IQ
TheSushiQueen on Wed, 2nd Nov 2011 9:43 am
People are imperfect but we love them regardless, so why point this out to them? It has no use and is counter productive.. I had a friend that pointed out my imperfections to another mutual friend (who of course then told me) and I was so livid! I have since cut them off because if you think I’m so terrible, why are you my friend.. Rather go deal with your issues away from me because I have no time to entertain ppl who hold grudges from millions of years ago as if they themselves are perfect..
Cinnabon on Wed, 2nd Nov 2011 9:45 am
I do believe that we are in this life to co-exist, but to properly do that, we first need to learn to understand, accept and connect with ourselves.
Cinnabon on Wed, 2nd Nov 2011 9:47 am
Well written @Mablerh…Thank You.
lolo on Wed, 2nd Nov 2011 9:57 am
Love it Mablerh…I think the first step to being tolerant of others is self acceptance…And as the Xhosa saying goes
“umntu uyinkosi ukuzazi’
people who feel the urge to point out my flaws really do give me a rash & a cramp simultaneously!
Trust me by pointing out my negative traits you are not making headline news, I know about my faults, I have been living with me full time for 34 years…
There are aspects of my personality that I’d like to change obviously, but that is a job for one, you are not doing me a good turn by pointing out how much of an opinionated bully I am , I’m fully aware of my tendencies and I am working on myself THANK YOU! Now hlala phansi usele amanzi ungandikhefuzeleli apha!
Luyah on Wed, 2nd Nov 2011 9:57 am
Nice article mablerh!
Lustagp on Wed, 2nd Nov 2011 10:18 am
Bravo…nice article @last Mbalerr! though we all need to listen on what ppl say about us sometimes gud or bad it is just part of human nature!
IamMissHope on Wed, 2nd Nov 2011 10:22 am
WOw!!! This thou >>>>>>> I can be a royal asshole, I get an orgasm when I get what I want, I’m allergic to stupid people who say stupid things with conviction and I have no filter between my mouth and brain; therefore shit just flows through.
mnyamana on Wed, 2nd Nov 2011 11:15 am
Great article Mablerh but I think sometimes there are circumstances that require your friends, family or loved one to say hold up this is really crap that you r doing… Like a while back a close friend of mine broke up with her man… Soon after that she was screwing every second man that smiled @ her… We thought it was passing but it didn’t and the worse part is she wasn’t using protection with these random guys… It got to a point where I had to say my friend this has to stop or I can’t continue with being your friend njengoba sewaziwa ngokuthi uwu nomusa hlabisa … Namanje I still get guys asking me ukuthi uphi lomngane wakho oyilahla
MizzVale on Wed, 2nd Nov 2011 12:48 pm
This really touched me! I’m at a point in my life where all of the things written here makes perfect sense to me. Such is life neh! Nice piece Mabler
manny on Wed, 2nd Nov 2011 12:58 pm
hey LOLO..uyibethe stru god..
mna over the weekend I was told by cousin that I need humblemyslef so that I can grow ..and if I want her in my life I must let them walk over me ..coz ngale rate yam im going nowhere slowly and if I think my education and money makes me better I have LONG WAY TO GO ..I apologised coz im known to have a foul mouth…but I ma never looking at them the same way again..coz everything I do IM being judged
localceleb on Wed, 2nd Nov 2011 2:12 pm
This was a great post, sometimes I write from the heart, and sometimes it’s just random and amusing things I care to share, I can totally relate to you, and thank you!
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Makgotso on Wed, 2nd Nov 2011 2:28 pm
Kwaaaaaaaaaaaaa @ Nomusa Hlabisa niyakhuluma mabloggers
Lustagp on Wed, 2nd Nov 2011 2:35 pm
lol@localcelebz is tht an invite,,,thsisa JC!
little on Wed, 2nd Nov 2011 3:18 pm
@Lustagp lol leave @localceleb alone *hides hahaha*
Mablerh u are negative but we love you regarless neh? lol
manny on Wed, 2nd Nov 2011 3:55 pm
i invite ephuma phesheya …