What’s The Last Good Decision You Made?

July 4, 2012 by Brown Shuga

…. and how easy is it for you to make decisions?

Oprah Magazine and Dentyne have partnered up on a new campaign called Good Choices. The campaign ‘s message is that ‘Good Choices’, will take women on a journey of self-discovery assisting them to become the best they can be, by making good and positive choices every day. ”

One question that they ask, which triggered this post is

‘When was the last time you made a good choice?’

Those taking part are then encouraged to highlight and note their good choices by creating a board on http://www.goodchoices.co.za/ and uploading photos that define those “good choice” moments. It’s pretty much Pinterest for Good choices, if you like.

The question that I’m asking though is pretty much like the type of question you’re likely to get in an interview but of course we aren’t all serious here… let’s talk life and share the Good and Worst decision we’ve made.

What’s the last good decision (LGD) you made and what’s the last bad decision (LBD) you made?

My LGD, actually I have two. My first good decision one was joining the company I work for right now and getting an opportunity to work with such amazing and high perfoming people. My second recent good decision was ignoring a certain SMS. It was difficult but I managed to do it and have no regrets, in fact I’m proud of myself.

The last bad decision? Buying Sunday World this past Sunday. Yes, even after everything I said, hope makes me continue to buy it every weekend. I wish I hadn’t though… there wasn’t much gossip for my gossip hungry soul!

Your turn. LGD & LBD.

My LGDs: Accepting Jesus Christ as my Lord & savour, in other words going all the way – being a BORN AGAIN CHRISTIAN.
The 2nd one: I decided to study A+, it’s showing me flames & I can’t afford it but I’m getting there. God will provide:)
3rd: Deleting da x’s contacts so I wouldn’t call him, he doesn’t know he’s an EX yet, hihihi!

LBD: Drinking that bottle of SKYY this past saturday, now the saturday is coming back to get(haunt) me:(

sxylin on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 8:27 am

Pakzin; so you dont have sex anymore? eiiia mme God will provide you only have to start your road with dedication to see the light; it will def be there!

bongi on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 8:32 am

LGD: Swop my life of partying joining holy cross church and attending classes for three hours every saterday..the reason why i mentioned the church name..is because ive been to other churches, but never felt the connection

LBD:To allow my kids to go on holiday and now i MISS them so much…and the schools are only opening on the 16th..

Mapakisha on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 8:33 am

@sxylin, ema hanyane ne. I’m taking this one day @ a time. Just like Lela once said, JHB born agains aren’t the same as the rest. I’ve met bo brother @ church & the things they wanna do to a sista?? hayi angazi, I’m yet to meet a proper xtian who’s on a crystal clean tip. So far ngiza kahle though:)

sxylin on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 8:39 am

thou shall stop having sex and alcohol Pakzin not good for your spirituality hahahaha! Confuses things especially Skyy Vodka kwaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa that thing eish!

Anyway enjoy your day!

LGD:- Moving to New York and working on my marriage
LBD:- hehehehehe

@FrancyNkonyane on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 8:40 am

@Nerlee Nothing scandalous

Since loosing both my parents at an early age, I found myself in a spiritual dilemma. Grew up in a praying family, but hectic praying sessions were not held at all, just ‘Our father’ yada yada that’s it.

Due to lack of knowledge about who I am. I found myself ngi twasa 3 years ago, not knowing that was the beginning of my problems. Being lied to by those evil traditional healers telling me that I will complete my studies and be able to work was untrue.

I found myself plotting things against innocent peeps that had nothing to do with my failure of life, simply because I wished they could feel exactly what I’ve felt, too many things have happened, way too many, but have not succeeded in completing one of them coz I later realized that was not me and how I’ve operated in life.

Basically I’ve made a pact with the devil himself unaware (I was in some kind of an unpleasant spell). I can’t even speak to anyone about it coz EVERYONE claims not to believe in these things mean while they do them underground. I don’t have problem with what I’ve been through at all, it was a life learning experience, but what I had a problem with, was that none of these things wouldn’t have happened had I had guidance from abantu abadala, not some random strangers that later wanted to have me for breakfast, lunch and supper, and for a snack in between.

Ntombi Yomzulu on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 8:43 am

LGD was to folow my heart and listen to my mind and To go back to school

LBD was to stop going to church, Im now hungry aspiritually I even become lazy to read the bible and I cant even pray without my mind wondering about nje so I just gave up.

Mapakisha on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 8:54 am

Hayi serious sxylin, iSKYY will show u the sky, next day usalumangele*I’m not gonna let saturday come back in my head*… It’s gonn’ b a long day. Spirituality & alcohol azihlangani, unless that alcohol ke selallo(holy communion), lol.

Mathaz on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 9:06 am

Ja indeed we are spiritual beings….it seems like most of us regret not having a relationship with God. Ever since i had my second child, i have not had time to read the bible and pray mara i am trying, thought it’s not easy.

Ohkay my very best decision is to accept that i will never change my husband, only God can. I have accepted that he likes drinking shem and going out on Fridays. There is so much peace at home, now when he wants to go he asks politely and i even tell him to have fun. He even comes before 12:00, except that day he was involved in an accident and had the second car within a year written off. Mara he has improved shem.

Bad decision is to neglect God, the devil is stealing my time. I don’t even have time to do my scrapbooking, studying and cooking delicious food. You see i am the domesticated type, i don’t clean mara i can spend the whole day in the kitchen trying out recipes and baking. So now i just cook nje coz i don’t have time.

jolene on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 9:08 am

@Fabulicious stop being paranoid sisi and just lay it out bare. My LGD was telling my ex fiance/high school sweetheart that “Jesus loves him”. And then hung up when he called me to tell me that he never loved me, he cheated waya-waya and was gona kill me. The 2nd one was deactivating my facebook. My LBD was pouring my heart out to a friend.

Fluffie on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 9:11 am

Morning y’all

Wow @Fancy; u’ve been through a lot, I’m glad you came out stronger and u now believe in God and your hope has been restored. Hang in there…

girliegal on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 9:12 am

Last month, after toying with the idea for 3 yrs, I finally decided that I would divorce my husband….Im scared of whats waiting for me out there but im doing it anyway..

lolington kwaaa on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 9:13 am

LBD: it’s both relationship related. 1. Flirted with some well spoken guy, I was convinced he will never win me over cause I consider myself ‘clever’ enough. Next thing I know we are both hooked on each other. BF found out and was convinced we are in a relationship. He forgave me though

LGD: Blocking the guy out of my life. I miss him though but I’ll get over it. He sent me a message yesterday and I did not reply.

Noance on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 9:15 am

LGD: Cutting ties with my ex. He hurt me so bad and I always felt sorry for him, when he never felt sorry for me. So finally kickin him out og my life was good.

LGD: Sticking to my journey with God, I have been a faithful servant and trying my best to walk right and live right.

LBD: I had a smoke last night and I have been trying to quit.

Noance on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 9:17 am

LBD: BBMing my crush, when I swore I would let him bbm me first! That was such an error move! GOSH!!!!!!!!

Mathaz on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 9:20 am

@girliegal…..can you not fix your problems?? Have you tried counselling?? God knows how many times i went to court and back but could not go ahead with it. Do you have children together?? After i did my research about the effects of divorce on children i conlcuded that i will never leave and that both of us must try to work it out.

girliegal on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 9:25 am

@Mathaz, we have 3 kids between us. WE both had 1 child from before our marriage and 1 in the marriage. Most beautiful kids, and they love him to bits. Bt him and I are so incompatible we make each other so miserable. And how can we be good parents if we are unhappy?

Noance on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 9:38 am

@girliegal If your sure its the right decision then go ahead. After reading Azania’s story in True Love, I realised that marriages sometimes do fail and it doesnt make u any less of a person. People change and thats life and the biggest step is seeing that its not working and allowing each other to be happy even if it means being happy apart.

Being a child of divorce myself, my parents were great parents even though they didnt live in the same house anymore. I was raised in love and turned out to be a great human being.

zoesaldanah on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 9:41 am

LGD: letting go of all and letting God take over, accepting and being content with where I am in life, opening up my heart and re-connecting with a friend that i love dearly <3
LBD: cant think of any eccept for giving this guy my no even though i could see by looking at him that i had no interest in him what so ever, dont ask me why i chose to be polite like that…

lolington kwaaa on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 9:43 am

@Fabulicious says
“Omg this post is gonna get personal and SILENT bloggers are surely salivating as we speak waiting for that moment of Fame on someone’s account!!!”
So true! Hahaha!

Mathaz on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 9:48 am

@girliegal…marriage is hard hey mara i believe if the two of you are committed, it will work out. For how long have you been married?? I ask this because the first five years of marriage are HELL.

Nerlee on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 9:50 am

****HUGS FANCY******shuuuuuuuuuuu this life mara!

Nerlee on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 9:55 am

ZoeSaldanah every time I read your comments I get a sense that I know you yazi! You sound familiar..

zoesaldanah on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 9:59 am

**blows kiss*** to Nerlee

bumbum on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 9:59 am

LGD was deciding to go ahead with my wedding last year after thinging long and hard about it and at 23 years I thought I’m too yound, I must say I’m very happy and I pray that God keep a lookout for even in hard times because I know they will come.

LBD was not taking photos with my late mom. I don’t have a picture of us together even we were best friends.

bumbum on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 10:02 am

@girliegal I wish all the best, that is one hard decision to take but if its the best way out let it be. God will give you closure and pray about it.

LadyMillion on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 10:02 am

LGD..
not relying on my partner for my own happiness.I decided i should be responsible for my own happiness not him. I had always thought.. we are in a relationship…HE IS THE MAN…HE MUST MAKE ME HAPPY. This guy took over my life, i spent less time with friends if any, so now when we fight i obviously couldnt run to my friends..if i wanted to do something and he didnt, im left depressed and resentful bcz angithi he is the only DJ in my club.. i had made him my BFF…nothing wrong with that but your boyfriend or husband should not be all there is to your life. So now i do other things without him, even if its just by myself… ndihappiest!

LBD… not bringing my freaking heater to work!!!! iflu indifumene shame….i look terrible,ingathi ndiyakhala

Vesa on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 10:04 am

Heartbreaking stories hey!

LGD – Taking care of orphaned kids in our neighbourhood, and providing them with the bare necessities.

LGD – Donating school uniform to one kid at the beginning of every year, at Witkoppen Primary School.

LBD – Not praying about everything in my life.

Znat on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 10:09 am

“I ask this because the first five years of marriage are HELL.”

Aowa Mathaz. Really? when does the honeymoon phase start kante?

lolington kwaaa on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 10:10 am

All the best girliegal!
The outside world is tough, but I hear being marriage aint no joke sometimes. Marriages fail, and if leaving is the best decision for your happiness then happiness must be your option. I just wish I did not have to commit to anyone!

@FrancyNkonyane on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 10:15 am

@Nerlee Dankie Ma…We shall win some day

bumbum on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 10:19 am

“I ask this because the first five years of marriage are HELL.”. Hau isn’t this the stage where you are still in the honeymoon phase, kushubile ke makunje

Beautybaby on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 10:23 am

LBD- Going to an interview which was horrible, got offered the job and turned it down cos i didnt understand why would they want me if the interview was so bad. i should have started on monday had i accepted the offer. now i feel sorry for myself, i should have accepted the offer. *cries*

kimmo on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 10:28 am

LBD-coming back to work after maternity leave
LGD- cutting my hair short, forgetting about weaves for a while!

@FrancyNkonyane on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 10:28 am

@Fluffie I can’t even begin to describe a lot in detail hey…that’s how hectic it was. But that isn’t the point. Learning from our experiences, and ‘TRYING’ not to repeat the same threatening mistakes we did, is what’s important. Thank you though.

bumbum on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 10:30 am

@Beautybaby sorry something better will come up. Most of the interviews are not good though its the way they see if you can stand the heat (pressure) and how you cope with it.

sweetness on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 10:30 am

PHWEEW!!

Noance on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 10:30 am

Hao @Beautybaby and then? That is God’s favour at its best and there you are refusing a job. Did you really want it or did you just go to the interview to see if you could get the job.

Vesa on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 10:33 am

@FrancyNkonyane….o tlo ba rite ne!

Nerlee on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 10:36 am

@Beautybaby kanti why did you turn down the offer, if you really wanted the job?

LadyMillion on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 10:41 am

I just wish I did not have to commit to anyone!

@lolington..hehe i dont even know what i mean by this but I want to get married bt I also dont want to commit to anyone.

or maybe its the wedding day that I want..Oh well *shurgs*

sweetness on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 10:42 am

LBD: Cant think of any right now… Been a good girl

LGD1: Making a lifestyle change… I think before I do, and making the right decisions for myself, being a bit selfish on things good for me. And keeping people who appreciates the real and “new” me. I lost friends, but it dont bother me, that means they dont deserve to be in my life…

LGD2: Getting back with my partner after a +-6 months break up. been together for 10 months now, and our relationship has been great!! We appreciate each other more now. I voiced out my woories, and what I want.

LGD3:Taking control of my finances, didn’t know how careless I was. I make calculated decisions now.

LGD4: cutting all contact with all ex’s, not giving potential candidates a chance to even try convince me otherwise. I am working on my current relationship. I realised that there will always be someone with a better offer out there, and falling for whoever/whatever wont get me anywhere, so I work with what I have, until I think its not worth it.

LGD5: Learning to say NO!! WOW, it feels good being in control of my decisions.

I can go on about my LGD… let me stop here for now

Beautybaby on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 10:42 am

@Noance, i really wanted and still wants this, i work in Engineering and completing my BCOM HR, so i need to get into the HR field cos thats where my passion is. but the interview was rough, i felt dom nje, like i didnt know anything about anything. i somehow felt that they only wanna follow procedure and that they already have someone in mind. Little did i know that i was that person. They called me (after i refused the offer) and asked me to reconsider, The biggest mistake again i called my cousin who works with my prospective employer and he said that If i am happy where i am, i must stay there cos the prospective employer is not a nice person. that sort of confirmed that i had made a good decision.
But now thininking about it, maybe it would have been different with me, i guess i would never know. But yeah, i am still sad about it, becos it would have given me the perfect opportunity to launch my HR career.

@Bumbum, thats what i am saying as well something will come up. *cries some more*

asanwababe on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 10:43 am

LGD: Breaking up with my ex boyfriend and joining the gym immediately after that. I really felt like I was taking charge of my life and I’m loving the results.

LBD: Hooking up with this s’bhanxa of a man just coz I was lonely and needed some TLC. Now I don’t want anything to do the guy, but akangehli. *what have I done*

LadyMillion on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 10:44 am

@Beautybaby..are you employed now..i believe everything happens for a reason…maybe it would have been hell there

Mathaz on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 10:44 am

Tjo @Beautybaby how i would die for any appointment letter. Next time please don’t apply for positions you are not interested in.

@Vesa..how noble of you…I used to do that hey, mara now i am consumed in my own things and it can’t be right. Talk about giving back to the community.

To all newlyweds…I don’t want to scare you, so enjoy!

Noance on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 10:54 am

@BeautyBaby Dont beat yourself up too much about it! God is a God of more than enough, so when you are ready, the right opportunity will prevail itself again and you will recognise it I think we all have those times where we wonder if we made the right decision or not.

bongi on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 10:59 am

@ bumbum i have only one picture of me and my late mum, nice thing about it we are both sleeping and im sleeping on her lap sucking my thumb. I was 6/7 years old.

Smatsatsa on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 11:08 am

LGD: Getting rid of so called friends, pheeew! My life has never been this stress-free..

LBD: I can’t think of any, I’m a Libra so decion making is a process, I take forever to make decisions and when I do they’re normally good..
#sidenote: I’m in my second year deciding if I should get a BB

asanwababe on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 11:10 am

@Smatsatsa, just a side note. Your gravatar makes me happy

Beautybaby on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 11:18 am

@Noance thanks babe. GOD is indeed a good GOD.

On a lighter note LGD, I joined weigh-less a month ago and i have already lost 2.2kg’s. I got tired of crash diets and wasting money. Now i am eating healthy and its working.

Vesa on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 11:31 am

@BeautyBaby….if iut didn’t feel right, it surely wasn’t right for you! Don’t get hung up on that decision, you listened to your inner being.

Something worthwhile will come along the way

Sips187 on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 11:35 am

@girliegal, divorce is hard girl. Pray to God for guidance & wisdom to make the right decision for you and your children. I got married very young @ 22 and was divorced by 25. The times were rough, went through a ‘*****-the-world-and-all-men phase. Surround yourself with family and people that love you.

LGD – payed off all my debts, car, loans, accounts alles, i feel so liberated. I just hope next month I dont start again.

Ms Diva on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 11:35 am

LGD- going to churh this past Sunday when i was so lazy and almost did n’t go and hey i’m glad i went. i met a very interesting person.:-)

LBD: i think i do this one very often when it comes to telling ppl i think are my friends everything and anything but i hope to change it soon and make a LGD to stop trusting too much

Beautybaby on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 11:37 am

Thanks @Vesa, much appreciated.

Lela on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 11:38 am

LGD: Getting rid of toxic friendships. I’m turning 30 this year and have no time nor space for junk in ma life. I’m in a very happy space right now.

LGD: Quitting alcohol, yho never thought this would happen, like I don’t have appetite even for Four Cousins le.

LGD: Going back to God full time and going back to church full time. Bendike ndawa nje.

LBD: Too personal but ke God is in control.

Sips187 on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 11:41 am

LBD – letting go of my soul mate and chose money over him. I will never forget him and will always love him. This is the biggest and only regret I have in my life.

Smatsatsa on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 11:41 am

Thanks @asanwababe “I appreciate it!” kwaaaaa

asanwababe on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 11:48 am

@Smatsatsa, hahahahahahahahahaha! It’s a pleasure babe! Your appreciation is appreciated.

Vesa on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 12:13 pm

I don’t understand this thing of people saying they are letting go of bad friends in their lives.

I’ve never had bad friends in my life yazi? I’m always lucky to meet interesting and crazy souls like me who just love and support each other. We are all on different paths and doing different things, and there’s never been a hint of jealousy or competition.

bumbum on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 12:16 pm

@Bongi I wish I had atleast one to hang in my house. ¤sad¤

Ntombi Yomzulu on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 12:17 pm

I ask this because the first five years of marriage are HELL.
@ Mathaz,please tell more yazi, I thought these were suppose top be the happiest

@Sips, arent you married kanti? I thought you were married

Ntombi Yomzulu on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 12:19 pm

*Hugs* Bum bum

sweetness on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 12:31 pm

Oh another LGD: deciding to open my own company, just received an email from CPIC to say, my company has been registered as of 2012/07/03.

Now all I need is to find Eda Roses sangoma so I can find a man to fund me…. @Sips187 do you perhaps have a number I can call?

Loulou on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 12:38 pm

lol! #Deathby sweetness
My last good and bad thing are one – deciding to have a baby in my early 20s was a blessing (I am always broke but sincerely believe that my purpose is to raise that child). the bad thing is the paternity – I had a baby with a dead beat oke and because if that I have deprived my child of a father figure

kimmo on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 12:44 pm

lol sweetness

fufu on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 12:44 pm

LGD 1:going back to finish my degree
LGD 2:Taking my boyfriend back after we broke up for 7 months,we have now been together for over a year and its amzing im his queen.
LBD 1:leaving my temp job for a perm job,i am miserable where i am.
LBD2:Not reading and not going to church.

Lela on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 12:45 pm

@Vesa you must thank God sisi, there are real frienemies out there. People who will laugh with you and yet behind your back they envy you, compete with you and say all the bad things they can say about you. They can be poisinous nana.Should you see even a lil sign that a friend may be envious of you run sana cz they gonna get evil.

Lapho i always wonder what they envy but i realised that when u are happy with who you are and what you have and makes it seem like much to those who don’t have any appreciation of who they are and what they have.

But i do have real friends and im happy with them. People who wish the best for me, pray for me, and cry with me, these ones i know i can call even at 4am and i know they say the same about me.

Nerlee on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 12:47 pm

@Vesa CONSIDER YOURSELF LUCKY DEAR
‘I’ve never had bad friends in my life yazi? I’m always lucky to meet interesting and crazy souls like me who just love and support each other. We are all on different paths and doing different things, and there’s never been a hint of jealousy or competition’

I also use to say I am a victim of bad friends until I realised
that I was the one who allowed it or maybe they are a reflection of who I am. Now I am picky about who I let into my space and that has made me a better person and I appreciate people for who they are-No Judgements because it is being judgemental that leads to saying people are toxic blah blah blah as if they forcing you to be part of their lives. EISH THIS LIFE

Sips187 on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 12:53 pm

@ NtombiYomZulu. Im married dear but not to the love of my life. When I finally decided I wanted my own family, Mr Soul Mate was not available anymore:’(. I hurt him real bad & it haunts me till this day.

Sweetness, please rather email me sips187@gmail.com

Smatsatsa on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 12:57 pm

Vesa I used to share the same sentiments that you have about friends, would never think of anything bad about them, we used to be on that “girl power” trip, jees, I used to defend my friends and say they are not like other friends I hear of. And this does not refer to all of them ne, just a couple. But when my life began to change in a positive way, I started seeing a change in their attitudes towards me, they would talk behind me to other good friends and say that they don’t understand how I get so many blessings while they’re also devoted to God! like wth? It was a shocker to hear some of the things they said about me, long story short, some friends want to always be above you,in everything, as long as that happens, you’ll be best buddies 4ever..

Ntombi Yomzulu on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 1:01 pm

Oh shame Sips sorry nana

asanwababe on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 1:09 pm

@Sips, eish it must be so hard, so sorry dali. At least you’re living a comfortable life. Imagine wishing you were with your soulmate and being broke at the same time. *it could be worse*

bumbum on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 1:24 pm

@Ntombi yomzulu ngiyabonga ngokwangiwa nana.

@Sips shuuu hai its tough but atleast you are happy right?

I was also madly inlove with this guy but we were both in commited relationships and we are good friends now and we don’t cross any bounderies. We will always have that “what if” but nigga was not loaded dou. We were Bony and Clyd kwaaaaaa.

fufu on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 1:27 pm

Vesa you are so lucky shem.mina i only realised i have bad friends izinto naziqala ukubheda i had only my family to turn to.my boss just told me ukuthi we failed the audit because of me.I just took a bullet for everyone in my department.saddest thing ukuthi im the only black person so the boss always picks on me.these lazy white people people always take credit when good things come mara they are lazy and always on private calls.

bumbum on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 1:33 pm

@Fufu sorry nana but was there proof that you were responsible for bad audit?. I feel your pain, I resigned from my IT job cause of being the only one who’s black and those beashis will just sit on their un ironed asses and pass calls on me while they were busy on chats and personal calls. And the worse I was the only one with a Diploma and all were unaducated money hungry agents who didn’t know what to do when a real problems arises babevele betatazele nje engathi bachatha uhlanya

Sips187 on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 1:43 pm

bumbum, happiness is a state of mind dear. I realise I can never turn back time, I must be happy with the hand Ive been dealt with. My life is okay. God has blessed me with a second chance and i’m aprreciative of that.

fufu on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 1:56 pm

eish bum bum nalaba abami izinto ezingayanga esikoleni.there is no proof and he did not even want to hear my side of the story.I feel as if im still in the apartheid era when they start speaking afrikaans and doing meetings in their language whereas they know i do not understand a word.

bumbum on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 2:15 pm

Eish ku tough @Fufu just apply and something good will come your way, I changed careers I’m now @ Operations and Movement @ Transnet and I’m loving it.

LadyMillion on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 2:16 pm

you guys though….i’ve been clueless about life yaz

bumbum on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 2:18 pm

@Sips true!

mbulela on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 2:26 pm

last two good decisions i made;
1.Deciding to have a vasectomy.Making the decision alone has been liberating.
2. Letting go of my best friend. I just woke up and realised that i was the one holding unto the friendship. Why hold a friendship dearly when the other party just does not care that much? Her priorities had changed i just had to accept it and move on.

mbulela on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 2:35 pm

LGD 3;
Deciding to accept the truth that God is in not a God of second chances. How i needed to accept that truth.

Fezzy on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 2:35 pm

@Mbulela, dont u want kids? Or sebabaningi?

chilled sweet lemonade on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 2:37 pm

@mbulela….I also had to let go of a good friend for the same reason…exact same reason….i have never ever looked back…. I think both of us were at that stage where it was time to call it quits….things happened and i stopped calling her completely…..i honestly DONT miss our friendship at all…..

asanwababe on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 2:38 pm

@Mbulela, do have children or a child already?

makasoso on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 2:39 pm

This year i seem to be so good at making bad decisions to such an extent that i can not remember the LGD i made.

mbulela on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 2:53 pm

@chilled,
it was and still is so painful.What makes it even more painful is that if i had been in her shoes, i would have moved heaven to make it work.I saw a missed call from her days back and refused to return it. if i was in her shoes, I’ll make every effort but the fact that she is not confirms it for me. I am free.
@asanwababe, I have.

sweetness on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 3:03 pm

@Makasoso my 2012 is completely different, 2012 is a great year for me!! I have been making great decisions, cant remember regretting anything.

Funny thing is never even sat down to think about making a change, I just started living my life differently and doing me. Doing things that make me happy. I realise I am not doing anyone a favour trying to fit in.

asanwababe on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 3:04 pm

@Mbulela, oh, ok. I have a friend (male) who doesn’t want children and wants to do surgery. But he’s still young, he’s in his late 20s. I always ask him, what if he wants to have children later on in life? But he insists!

makasoso on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 3:13 pm

@sweetness, i think im gonna take a page out your book

Lela on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 4:44 pm

Hayibo Mbulela!

bumbum on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 5:07 pm

Jtoh @Mbulela one toughest decision leyo

Mathaz on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 5:48 pm

It is the first time I hear of a black man who did a vasectomy @mbulela.

mbulela on Wed, 4th Jul 2012 7:36 pm

@mathaz, about to do.sorting out the details with my urologist.
It is more hectic than i first thought. i have to wear raincoat for a year and little other conditions.
Anyway the OP is scheduled.
@Lela my love, I’ll give you a call. we need to talk.serious.

Nthoentle on Thu, 5th Jul 2012 8:32 am

Wena @Fabulicious you have that fear cos you have done that to others.

Lover28 on Thu, 5th Jul 2012 11:17 pm

LBD- staying with a man for 4 years knowing he had a GF in another province, I almost lost my friends and family because of him. I haven’t seen him in more than a year but I’m still not over him, I don’t know how to get him out of my system. After trying for a baby for 3years with him, the GF got preg en he dumped me like a hot potato.

LGD- moving to another province and starting a new life. I didn’t know a soul here, its been a year, its not easy but I’m coping.
LGD- the relocation en lonelineSs brought me closer to my God, my relationship with Him is stronger than ever

Lastly – this is not a decision but I’m 27, no man, no child. My big family dream dies each and every day and its so depressing… *goesback2drawningsorrows*

mbulela on Sat, 7th Jul 2012 6:29 pm

Lastly – this is not a decision but I’m 27, no man, no child. My big family dream dies each and every day and its so depressing… *goesback2drawningsorrows*

@Lover 28,it is too early to let depression win this battle.What makes you think you can’t get a man at 29 and have 2 kids by 32(or even more kids,if that rocks your boat)? Rather enjoy where you are now while preparing for where you are going. you don’t want to get a man in 18months time and realise you did not live life in the intervening period.
Enjoy life now while holding unto your big family dream.
If you get depressed over this at 27,what will happen to one of my best friends who has a fantastic career but no man and no kid at 40 and spends most of her time fighting married men who want to warm her bed?

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